Man, you’re only 18. You’ve got plenty of time to figure yourself out. Don’t worry about labels like asexual and stuff. I think you’re attracted to these anime girls simply to fill in the void left by the lack of communication with women. You have so much time to explore yourself, your passions, and what exactly you like or dislike when it comes to physical intimacy. Right now, you should focus on yourself, your studies and real-life things, like hanging out with friends and improving your social skills. You’ll figure out your sexuality in due time. I bet you’ll even find girls who are into anime and hentai. It’s pretty common, as I’m sure you know.
Hmm I can relate quite a bit. I was in a relationship a long time ago, but then I hit a rough patch in my life and started watching hentai. I do notice that the thoughts about real women do not excite me as much as they used to. I guess it’s because the girls in anime porn are made to look better. Then again, relationships aren’t only about physical things, you know. You’ll like a girl for her personality. So don’t limit yourself thinking you’ll never be attracted to one. If you really want to have a relationship, you need to give it a try.
You should consider getting into therapy and working through these issues. I doubt the porn is the problem by itself. There may be some underlying issues like low self-esteem and loneliness, maybe social anxiety. Therapy is good for everyone, regardless of their age or background.
Have you ever felt the need for a romantic relationship? Do you think you can feel romance and emotional attraction for a real girl? A relationship is about mutual support, compassion, and even just cuddling. Can you imagine yourself being attracted to someone like that without the need to touch them? That’s what being asexual would feel like.
This assumption that anime porn is less harmful than other kinds of porn is so wrong! Pornography is, at its core, an escape from reality, and hentai takes that to a whole new level. Fictional characters absolutely warp your sense of reality. Even if tomorrow you’ll wake up with a girl next to you, you won’t be happy. You need to learn those things, and to do that, you must stop watching anime porn. Take a break for a month or so. You need those pleasure centers in your brain to stop associating pictures with intimacy.
Well, you could always try to find a girl who cosplays… of course you won’t find real versions of anime girls, they do not exist. Try not to get too stressed defining yourself, take your time to explore what you want in a partner.
Interesting that you find your addiction to cartoons more moral. You could look up what studio made some particular hentai episode, might even find the videos of a production process. It was all drawn by real people, quite often female artists. Perhaps this reality touch can be your wake-up call?
I’m just trying to show you behind the scenes of your fictional dream. It’s kind of as boring as other kinds of pornography. Once you realize it, it becomes much less appealing.
@Secret for now In theory, yeah I suppose I can be romantically interested in an IRL girl. I fear I’m doomed to be disappointed, or I’ll disappoint them anyway
I believe anime porn is in fact even more dangerous than “normal porn” that you dislike, because it makes your brain used to the proportions (eyes, breasts, etc.) that are totally unrealistic, while the usual kind of porn shows you all kinds of real women. If you look at perfect anime girls all the time, you won’t find actual women with healthy bodies attractive. This is something you need to work on. I highly recommend therapy, even if it’s online. Hopefully, you’ll find a way to regain a healthy perspective on intimacy and relationships soon enough.
For many people, attraction to hentai stems from the unlimited sexual fantasies available, which aren't possible in real life. It can really feel like you found a perfect place for manifesting your desires. Since you started watching it in your early teens, a vulnerable time of development, it likely played a part in shaping your views on intimate relationships. Anime often depicts female characters in unrealistic ways, which may explain its effect on your expectations.
However, even though your attraction to anime can feel like it's more intense or more satisfying than real life, it's possible to have both. It's important to reflect on why you feel the need to "escape" to anime, and what you might be escaping from. Consider any problems you're dealing with now (relationships, stress, boredom, etc.) that you may be avoiding. Understanding the root causes can help you address them in a healthy way, reducing the urge to escape. For example, if you feel stressed, you can explore other ways to feel better, such as excercising or journaling.
In order to find balance, you could also try reducing your exposure to anime porn (for example, by setting a specific time limit on it) and explore other interests and activities that you can enjoy - whether it's doing something creative, playing music, cooking etc. Just think about things you enjoyed in the past or try something new by visiting an art class, for instance, and see how it makes you feel. Pursuing a hobby is a great outlet for your energy and can give you a sense of fulfillment.
It's also helpful to explore different ways of meeting people (e.g. through classes, social events, interest clubs) and be more open to different types of people. Just try starting conversations without having any expectations beforehand, staying curious of where the conversation may lead, what perspectives other people might offer, etc. In time, by doing so, you're more likely to find yourself feeling attracted to real life people again in a healthy way.
I want you to first answer how should a real relationship be according to you? what do you want in it? is it only about attractiveness sexually or you look for much more qualities in a real relationship. name those qualities and see which are the first 3 priorities like it could be humour, charm etc.
Next based on that priorities then step out and talk to people. That is very important. it will get you back in to reality. interacting with real girls will help you in finding the other qualities you look in real relationship which can also be attractive.
You need to take a break from watching anime. Try not to watch anime for some time .
Do go to a therapist who would help you through talk therapy.