Lately, I don't know what I'm doing married. I feel like a stranger in my family, the whole environment is annoying. I look at my husband and don't understand how I could marry him...I am disoriented in my family...It's like I woke up from a dream.... I used to sleep ...now, I saw my husband...a passive man who doesn't need anything...he gets little money, doesn't strive anywhere and spends a lot of time on the internet...My child also annoys me: no order, no achievements.... the apartment is terrible... the city's a shithole. What am I doing here? How did I get here? I want to run... somewhere in my house. A beautiful, clean home, where my husband is a leader and I'm driven to succeed. I can't go anywhere on my own, and my husband won't pull me. I'm annoyed by the garbage at home, even the fact that my husband put a mug in the wrong place. The child does not strive for excellent grades. I want everything to be perfect. The best city, a very big salary, beautiful people in buses and subways, a perfect apartment, an excellent child, a perfect husband .... Where to run and where to look for the perfect place? How to make the world be perfect? I realize that there is no such thing as perfect...but I so want everything new...and so I secretly packed my bags and am leaving everyone in the family. yes, I'm leaving a non-perfect family ...I'm going to meet my ideal, different country, great conditions. And the loser husband can stay in his hole. When I get settled, I'll take the baby. I don't know, I think I'm doing something wrong, but this is an escape from the family, which arose spontaneously ... maybe it's schizophrenia

Folks, I’m married to a great guy. We got married 2 years ago, at that time we were earning similar amount. I got 2 promos and my salary is now in top 0.05% club.

Now I want to live a certain lifestyle which my husband can’t. He earns 60% of what I do. And I know he is working hard, even bootstraped a startup. I see his hard work but it makes me anxious why would I always have to live like this in compromised state?

I even feel guilty sometimes. Is this normal?

on top of all this, I come from wealthy family with 0 family responsibilities. Husband on the other hand has to take care of his parents, buy them decent house , marry off his sister.

I feel that I won’t be able to enjoy life as I should .

any thoughts anyone experiences same??

I feel embarrassed in my circle of friends where we all can afford luxury like 2 euro trip a year, buy luxury house n car.. but I can’t because my husband can’t do all these things at one go.

In our society it’s ok for men to earn more.. but have you faced a situation like this where lady of house earn more than men and feel guilty of her success?

I some times think to divorce him, marry someone better off financially as well. I won’t ever ask money from my husband but futuristically I want to envision a good life per our earning standards not live sub par to it. Any thoughts?

With 2025 being less than 24hrs away I’m taking this day to rest and recharge. I’m hydrating, building my schedule and setting intentions for the new year. 2024 was incredible because I experienced love, suffered loss and learned lessons. All of those things have helped put me closer to where I strive to be and I’m so grateful. I want to encompass love and I want to embody light. I want to continue inspiring others and giving voice to those who feel silenced. I want to continue empowering those who feel helpless and give direction to those seeking guidance.

10 years ago I never expected to live long enough to see adulthood. I was self inflicted, suicidal and felt hopeless. Now, almost 11 years later I’m alive and thriving, not navigating on autopilot and surviving. 2024 brought me 2 years sobriety and 5 years clean of self harm. It brought me 2 almost 3 years into therapy and 2 almost 3 years of actively volunteering in my community and others. I have so much love and hope inside of me that I can physically feel my heart racing from excitement.

Come 2025 I will continue to love, process my grievances from loss and apply the lessons learned. I don’t doubt for a second that challenges will follow but I’m okay with that. I take adversity as opportunity to improve myself in one way or the other and I look forward to it. 2025 will be my year of continuous succession as I hope it will be for others. I hope the rest of this year and next will be great to myself and everyone else who may be struggling with silent battles they’re fighting or other hardships they don’t speak on.

Hi, my question will be somewhat delicate. I’m not quite sure whom to turn to or what to do next, so guess I just need some opinions on the matter.

I work in a library, and we have a mentally handicapped man working with us. I don’t know the details of his condition. He’s in his forties but acts like he’s 16. All my other colleagues are middle-aged women, I’m the only one without a family or kids. When I took the job, that man immediately took a liking to me and it sort of became our routine to chat a bit in the morning and after work. Nothing personal, we talk about favorite music and TV-shows. He tells me what he had cooked for breakfast (he lives with his mother) and the new Lego set he had bought. Initially I thought it was normal work chitchat, especially when we both get bored with repetitive daily tasks. But lately our communication has turned to direct flirting on his side. He always wants to help me with something, even though I don’t need any help. I tried to be polite and friendly, but eventually snapped a couple of times telling him he was distracting me from my work. He got offended and ignored me for several days walking back and forth past my working desk twenty times a day with a blank face. It was actually a relief, but it was not for long, and meanwhile my colleagues kept joking that I’d been rude to “our Jeff”. I secretly hoped he’d stay offended, but he showed up with a rose instead and doubled his flirting. He also became more aggressive, last month he came to work and put his arms on my shoulders asking for “free hugs” all the while smiling like it was something natural. I didn’t know how to react and tried to detach myself as quickly as possible. My colleague who was standing next to me patted him on the back and told him to go do his job, which he did. She finds his attentions to me “cute” and reminds me that he doesn’t fully understand the full consequences of his actions. I’m not sure this is true because he doesn’t act the same way to any other woman, but I never gave him any reasons to believe I’m interested. I took two weeks off before the holidays, hoping that we’ll all take a healthy break from one another and things might change for the better. My friend advised me to treat the man as I treat my female colleagues, to be very reserved and focus on my work. However, I find it hard to follow! I began avoiding our small cafeteria on the first floor and take the pains to have lunch at the mall next to the library, just to avoid any communication with Jeff outside work. It’s both longer and lonelier. I feel uncomfortable when he is around. Two days ago, he grabbed me by the hand near the elevator and tried to hold me, making inappropriate comments about my skirt. I told my manager about it, she shrugged it off, like all my other colleagues do. They think he’s harmless, and I almost feel ashamed for complaining to them. I tried to casually lie to Jeff that I have a boyfriend and am about to get married, and he didn’t show any signs of comprehension at my words, as if I were talking about my brother or about pizza. I feel like I’m some sort of trophy, and I’m supposed to be kind and understanding because I have no mental issues and he has.

So, how to handle this situation appropriately? I don’t want to get Jeff in trouble, but I don’t know how to stop it, without quitting my job? Or should I quit? The pay is not worth it, and the only reason I took it was to pay the bills quickly and because I thought it’s a great relaxing job.