I saw that people share success stories here to help others. I decided to write about myself. I suffered from perfectionism for a long time. That is, I exhausted myself by endlessly improving my work, myself, everything. It was in every aspect of my life. If I cleaned the apartment, it was necessary to choose the best solution for cleaning, to wash all the "crevices", as a result, the process was very long, and the dust appeared quickly again. And so in everything. It took me a long time to get the job done because I was self-critical and all the time it seemed "not good enough yet". Do you think I had reached the "heights" and felt good about myself? Of course not!!!
I experienced constant anxiety, a feeling of inadequacy, a sense of imperfection, and depression. Moreover, the slow pace of work due to constant improvement did not suit anyone either. At some point I realized that enough was enough! When I saw how successful my colleagues are, and I am not at all in comparison with them. But it's easy to say "enough." But what do you do? How do I get my head to work differently?
I was sitting on a bench at the playground and watching children playing in the sandbox. One girl was making "pies" out of the sand and another girl was making crooked shapes. The second girl got frustrated and her mom told her "I like it just the way it is! You're my imperfect perfection!". And then I thought, this idea could very well help me too, the perfectionist. I can be perfect by finishing everything exclusively to the right level. And then that would be the criterion of perfection.... I felt very easy and good... What I wish you too!
