I saw that people share success stories here to help others. I decided to write about myself. I suffered from perfectionism for a long time. That is, I exhausted myself by endlessly improving my work, myself, everything. It was in every aspect of my life. If I cleaned the apartment, it was necessary to choose the best solution for cleaning, to wash all the "crevices", as a result, the process was very long, and the dust appeared quickly again. And so in everything. It took me a long time to get the job done because I was self-critical and all the time it seemed "not good enough yet". Do you think I had reached the "heights" and felt good about myself? Of course not!!!
I experienced constant anxiety, a feeling of inadequacy, a sense of imperfection, and depression. Moreover, the slow pace of work due to constant improvement did not suit anyone either. At some point I realized that enough was enough! When I saw how successful my colleagues are, and I am not at all in comparison with them. But it's easy to say "enough." But what do you do? How do I get my head to work differently?
I was sitting on a bench at the playground and watching children playing in the sandbox. One girl was making "pies" out of the sand and another girl was making crooked shapes. The second girl got frustrated and her mom told her "I like it just the way it is! You're my imperfect perfection!". And then I thought, this idea could very well help me too, the perfectionist. I can be perfect by finishing everything exclusively to the right level. And then that would be the criterion of perfection.... I felt very easy and good... What I wish you too!
Really great story!!!I suffer from perfectionism...I will now try to "cure" myself. I work long hours too, because I'm constantly correcting mistakes...And I still feel like I'm doing everything badly. I want to be perfect, but I also realize that it is impossible.
Your idea is great! I'll try that too. accept yourself with your mistakes. It's good to share stories
Oh! It's me ! A perfectionist who's always improving a project. And does the work slowly. And the Klents get nervous ! I'll try your advice, maybe I'll become "imperfect perfectionist".
I'm a perfectionist too, especially about my looks. I work as a model and I have to be perfect. I overdid it with dieting and now I'm on medication.... I will try to visualize myself as "imperfect perfection". Thanks for the idea!!!
Good idea for fighting perfectionism.... Thank you!!! I'll give it a try!!! I agonize over constantly improving my work, education, and realize I never reach perfection....
I love success stories! I am a manager myself and strive to become as successful as possible. Yes, perfectionism is a pain and a problem for employees. But there is a problem here - the main thing is to understand how to choose those "acceptable limits"