I'm a 35-year-old dad, and I'm really struggling with my 13-year-old daughter. I love her so much, but lately, she shows little to no respect to anyone, including me and her mother. It's breaking my heart and I don't know what to do. I'm so anxious because of of it lately.

Every time I ask her to do simple tasks like cleaning her room or helping with the dishes, she either ignores me or snaps back with some rude comment. It's like she doesn't care about anyone's feelings. She used to be such a sweet and caring girl, but now it feels like I don't even know her. She's started being disrespectful to even her friends. I've gotten calls from her school about her behavior, and it's so embarrassing. I don't know where this attitude is coming from. Is this normal for a teenager?

I'm worried that if this continues, she'll grow up to be someone who doesn't respect anyone, and that's not the kind of person I want her to be. How do I get through to her?

I feel like my bf hates me, and it's seriously stressing me out. Lately, my boyfriend has become super moody and it feels like I'm the reason for it. He hasn’t outright said it, but the vibes are off. The other day, he got on my case for watching a video over and over, like, is that even an issue? Why tf does he care so much? It's my downtime, and if I want to binge-watch something on repeat, it should be chill, right?

Plus, he's been acting all distant and stuff, which is making me OVERTHINK everything. I'm not doing anything different, so why the sudden change? Is this behavior normal or am I just being paranoid? Can someone drop some wisdom on me? It's like he's the one who changed, not me, and I'm just trying to figure out what's going on

Why do I wake up in panic? It makes no sense. I have no nightmares and don’t remember my dreams at all. My mind just becomes wide awake 2-3 hours before the alarm clock fires, heart racing, and I lie in bed, feeling cold and anxious about nothing in particular. Just anxious! I’m not able to get back to sleep, no matter how hard I try to convince myself that everything’s all right. There’s a pounding in my head, or my ears, that makes it difficult to sleep. If I get up, it all stops. No signs of anxiety or unexplainable fears throughout the day. Only a feeling of exhaustion from sleep deprivation.

Is this normal?

Nothing terrible is happening in my life, and on the days when it happens, I have no big plans, nothing to worry about even subconsciously.

I should start with some back ground. My girlfriend and I were together for 2 years and a little more. There is a 2 year gap between us (me being the older one) and we have both dated here and there before but it is safe so say that within our young lives we were probably each other's, atleast mine first serious romantic relationship and that too in our early 20s. During our first year together she felt the need to explore her sexuality ( her friends had somehow convinced her that if I loved her I would let her find out her identity, that it was nrcessary and that meant having sexual relations with others). I am a quite a monogamous person and as such I was against it. A little after our 1st anniversary and when I was out of station for a month for an internship, she kind of cheated on me ( her, her bisexual friend and that friend's friend, a lesbian got drunk and my gf had sex with the lesbian) she regretted it and I could never truly forgive her for it. I just pushed through since it can't be changed and I loved her. I still do. 3 weeks or so back she got drunk at a club and cheated on me. Again. Confessed to me by herself while crying. I asked for space. I knew I still loved her. This was just a few weeks after our 2nd anniversary. Even so I knew I could never forgive her. She had family problems as well and I couldn't tell her parents and break their hearts so I acted normal and pushed through despite knowing that I won't forgive her and my trust in her had taken a huge blow. The following week she got molested so I put it all aside and decided to focus on taking care of her. A week(last week) later she told me that she was traumatized, could trust or feel anything for anyone, not even love towards me and that she needed space to heal. I did oblige, just asking now and then how she is feeling. By the 2nd night she, stopped talking to me and last friday when I called she was at some guy's place i didn't know with her friends and I was concerned but she told me that i am not her partner at that moment and as such I should stop being this way. I was hurt. That night I told her that due to her actions I am insecure and if she were to do something physical with someone despite promising that she would come back to me I wouldn't be able to take it and would break up with her as I would feel being taken for granted and I felt I have been disrespected enough. Also she may take her time to heal but I can't stay around for an infinite amount of time while she stays with no strings attached as it wrecked me with anxiety. We broke up then as she would not agree with me... It felt horrible. The following day I spent it crying and it was last friday. On friday night she told me that she did go ahead and makeout with 2 other guys in that 3,4 day period and... I just. I love her I still do. I spent every minute on her, lost friends and now... I am alone. I hate it that I love her so much that a part of me still feels like going back but I know it won't be right. There is this void I feel. Everything I did... I had her to speak to and now... I am alone. No one to share my moments with. The memories crash on me and I break down at random moments and mixed with this lonliness... I am tired and ao drained... I don't know what to do. I love her. I don't hate her and don't want to. I just don't know how to stop feeling so horrible all the time. I can't connect with anyonw because for 2 straight years it was just me and her and I sacrificed everything for her. I feel so lost... and alone.