Seems like your only issue here is that you cannot stop thinking about your breakup , and that person, I was in a similar situation but it wasn't a break-up, I lost my friendship with my closest buddy and trust me it did hurt like hell, getting betrayed by someone you trusted the most, anyways what I did was, I channelized all my sorrow and anger into studying, my mother told me, be so capable that they'll come to you, which eventually happened, I'm studying medicine abroad right now, and they dying to know my ways my strategies, so I'll suggest you the same budd, you're the main character of your life, everyone else is side role, hope this helps

@stefan thank you so much

Idk why I don't want to let go of my past

It always happens when you have gone through breakup and that too very recently. It hurts even more to see them with someone as quickly as you can get items delivered from abroad. I know this because I have faced this issue. Not exactly getting her into a proper relationship but trying to get someone and it sucks. You feel anger jealous sad and you are not able to do anything about it because it is their choice. And I have faced a lot lot more than all those people I know of like anyone who had their breakup from their high school love.

I will also tell you my whole story in the other reply so that you can feel better that you are in a way way better situation in life than I am currently. And you will trust me you will feel a lot better after reading my whole fuc**d up situation.

For me it is now not an option to get back the time I wasted or when I wasted too but you have. You have that exact opportunity to get everything you desired even without him. Your success your ambition your career everything. Totally every damn thing. And you know yourself that you are capable of getting them but you can't stop thinking about him or your relationship because he lives in your neighborhood and even if he wasn't it surely would have helped but not so much.

First of all try to stop yourself from even seeing him. It will remind you again and again what you had before. Stop following him on social media or block his contact number etc. It will seem like an impossible task to do but get yourself enough angry and motivated to do so. If he can forget you in two weeks you too can even if it will take longer. It is the problem of the sensitive people that they feel much much more pain in every situation especially related to heartbreak. Meditate atleast one hour daily. It will help you in ways you don't even know of.

Start talking to few boys if you feel like you should. Don't try to get into a relationship but just talk. It will help you get some attention from someone and it helps getting away from thinking about your ex.

And most importantly after meditation try to focus on by starting to study while listening to songs. Songs will distract you to a level where you will not be distracted by thinking about your ex and you will be somewhat able to focus on study.

Also you can search for few tips on the internet. But mostly they are not written for everyone especially for the one who is sensitive. I know because I have tried it all.

Lastly I am going to write my whole story so that you you feel you are in a much much better condition than me. Also if I haven't been of much help to you I am sorry. I too am just trying to help myself and 1-2 people on this application so I am too new in this whole scenario. But if I have helped even a little you can always reply back.

Take care

This may seem too long to read but I am helpless and hopeless so just trying if any one can give me good perfect advice according to what I am dealing with or how can I get back into life being successful , earn money , that feeling of being loved again. I am completely new to sharing what I am suffering so don't mind if I seem too idiotic or stupid but that is how I feel. Mostly I think it has been my mistakes only because you can't blame anyone else if you have made your life not worth living because a lot of people suffer much more and they still stand tall. I don't know but I am suffering every day and just desperately want to get out of this stage of my life which has been too long. So writing here in just a ray of hope that someone will read this and understand and then give me some advice or atleast some consolation that things it still get better.So here is the whole story :- I am from India. And I used to be a very bright student in my school days. Always used to score better than almost everyone till the time I fell for a girl. Yeah it should not have happened but it did because I was a idiot. So after I fell for a girl who was too beautiful lovely and she had all the qualities ticked. We were into a relationship for almost 4 years. Just before my high school board exams she broke up with me. There was no cheating or seeing someone else. It was also not that we fell out of love for each other. It was just that we were not able to meet each other quite often because of coaching classes and all. But we used to talk over phone and texted each other a lot. That not meeting quite often started to create problems between us because it was that thing which always used to clear any fights or anything else from our relationship equation. Then that distance grew and the fights started more and more and she broke up with me before the high school board exams. She loved me and I loved her a lot too but somehow I was not left capable enough after breakup to study for the exams. And then started my downfall. I failed in my board exams because I was not able to study. I did not cared for anything which was happening that time. All in my mind was just her. I started drinking smoking which I never even thought of. Then she left for another city for college. She somehow realised her mistakes too and she wanted to get back with me. She also gave a lot of signs that she wants to get back with me. But there was this thing which I felt guilty about always from the day I knew it. It was that somehow when we used to kiss and get too close few of those times I got too excited and ended up with upsetting her. I knew that I did wrong but all this with the growing distance between us made her slightly hate me I guess or just angry. That excitement thing never was the issue when she got into college and tried to get back with me again but that guilt never left me that I have hurt that one who I loved most after my parents. Even if it was not a big issue. So I always thought even when she tried to get back with me that I will end up upsetting her only. Also I was too much into self depressing mode that I didn't even noticed her signs of let's get back together. Now after a year or so she got busy and settled well into the new city so made friends and all but we always used to be in touch. Sometimes we used to call and chat with each other. Also whenever she used to come back in a year we used to meet every year. After a gap of year I also started engineering course but she was always in my mind. I used to think that once I will get better I will tell her everything. And which I did but then it was too late. Now starts the real downfall in my life. The thing which gave me hope all those years was gone now. So now I started smoking pot day night anytime. Same with alcohol. Then came hard drugs. I spent all my parents hard earned money on these things which were not making me better but on the contrary I was drowning. Drowning in guilt shame and also the effects which I was having with the heavy usage of those drugs.College ended and I ended too with no job. Then I quit all of it for months and tried to take control of my life. Get a job earn money gain confidence which got so low because of the drugs and all the feelings in which I was not interested anymore. Needless to say even though I got opportunities to get a gf again I was not over her so I did not even tried to get to say even yes to anyone. Then again started a period of heavy drug abuse. Relapses happened again and again because whenever I got sober I started getting dreams almost on a daily basis of her. I was not able to feel good any day because I always used to think what has happened should not have happened etc and needless to say I already was recovering from heavy drug abuse. Now as I am sharing this I am fully sober for few months now but still with those dreams of her or where I am in my life suffering with no job no money even though I am 27 now. Low self esteem low confidence. She has got someone in her life who is very good looking and successful and she seems to be in perfect love story now. All I can think of is how I can get things to make work for me now ? How am I going to get my pride my confidence back ? How am I going to get fit again ? How am I going to get a good job ? Just hopeless and full of despair is the condition of my life. Although it has been since a lot of years but the drugs used to get a escape route to me which I don't want now. But I want to see myself get back in life. Everything I had a dream of I want to fulfill those. But how ? Just how ?If anyone is kind enough to read till the end and even think that I am a fool idiot dumba** which you are right I was, can you give some advices ? Help me out to get me help myself. If you even read till the end I am very thankful to you.

And I am sorry for the grammatical mistakes because it was too big and too overwhelming to even right this that mistakes happened. Also I am not too very good at writing I think. So if you have read till end accept my apology for this also.

Please be very selfish when it comes to protecting your emotions, mental health and future plans because all this is self care

If you know what to do and how to do, then I feel just your lack of confidence and anxiety is holding you back, I understand it happens a bunch of times, just stop getting anxious about it all okay, secondly try putting everything into a plan and chart it out, and then you just have one thing left, discipline, stay disciplined following this, and you'll get through, have faith in yourself , don't panic