Don't engage in their game or try to retaliate. It'll only make things worse. Instead, focus on protecting yourself and your family. Document everything: save text messages, emails, any other evidence of their harassment. It might be helpful to reach out to a lawyer to understand your options. In the meantime, be honest with your friends and family about what's happening. The people who truly know you will see through the lies
@Saman S This.
One additional point I'd like to bring up is the importance of self-care during this time. Dealing with harassment and false accusations can take a significant toll on your mental health. Make sure to prioritize activities that bring you joy and help you relax. Consider seeking support from a therapist. Additionally, it might be beneficial to temporarily limit your social media presence to avoid unnecessary stress and exposure to harmful rumors. Yur well-being should be your top priority right now
@jaclop.5 you've made some excellent points about self-care and mental health. I'd like to expand on that by suggesting the importance of building a strong support network. Reach out to trusted friends and family members who can offer emotional support and possibly even vouch for your character if needed
@Saman Thanks for your advice, Saman. I'm just so tired of all this. I've been trying to ignore it, but it's hard when it's affecting my family too. I've started keeping records like you said. I've been honest with my friends and family, but some of them still believe the lies. It hurts so much. I just want this to stop. I want my old life back
WHAT??!!this ain't cool at all. Your ex needs to grow up and stop acting like a child. I've seen this kinda drama befor. it usually blows over eventually. But that doesn't mean you gotta just take it. Maybe try talking to a mutual friend who can knock some sense into your ex? If that doesn't work, you might need to get more serious about protecting yourself. Just don't do anything stupid that could get you in trouble, ya feel me?
What's the craziest rumor you've heard about yourself so far?
My friend went through something similar a couple of years ago. Her ex started spreading all kinds of lies about her too. It was crazy how fast the rumors spread in our small town. Everyone was talking about it, and it really hurt her
At first, she didn't know what to do. She tried talking to her ex, but he wouldn't listen. It was so frustrating for her. She felt like she was losing control of her own story
But she got through it. It took some time, but things got better. She started by telling her side of the story to the people closest to her. She was honest and open about everything. Slowly, people started to see that the rumors didn't match up with who she really was
She also focused on the friends who stuck by her. Those were the ones who really mattered. She learned who her true friends were during that time. It wasn't easy, but she got stronger because of it
In the end, the truth came out. It took a while, but things got back to normal. Her reputation recovered, and she even made some new friends who stood by her during the tough times
So, don't give up. It might feel really bad right now, but it will get better. Keep being yourself and don't let this change who you are. The people who really know you will see through the lies
@Vince Vince, thank you for sharing your friend's story. It gives me a little hope, but right now it feels like this nightmare will never end. I'm glad your friend got through it, but I'm not sure I'm as strong as she was. I've tried telling my side of the story, but it feels like no one's listening. Some days I don't even want to leave the house. I'm scared of running into people who might believe the lies. I know I should stay positive, but it's so hard. I miss feeling normal. I miss not having to explain myself all the time
i think it's important to recognize that your ex's behavior likely stems from their own insecurities and unresolved issues. this doesn't excuse their actions, but understanding it might help you process the situation. you should prioritize your mental health right now. consider seeking counseling to help you navigate these emotions. in terms of practical advice, i would suggest keeping a detailed record of all incidents of harassment, block your ex on all platforms if you haven't already, ask your friends and family to do the same
@kathryn_harris.15 Thanks for your advice, Kathryn. I know you're probably right about my ex's behavior coming from their own issues, but that doesn't make it any easier to deal with. I'm trying to focus on my mental health, but it's hard when everything feels like it's falling apart. I've thought about counseling, but I'm worried about what people might think if they find out. I know that's silly, but in a small town, everyone talks
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. 😔 That's not fair at all. Your ex is being really mean and hurtful. It's awful they're spreading lies about you. You don't deserve this. I can't imagine how stressful and upsetting it must be. 😢
It's terrible that it's affecting your family's business too. You tried to talk to them, which was the right thing to do. It's not your fault they won't listen. I don't have any good advice, but I want you to know you're not alone. 🫂 If you need to talk more, I'm here to listen. Stay strong. Things will get better
@anthony Anthony, thank you so much for your kind words. It means a lot to know someone understands how unfair this feels. You're right, I don't deserve this, and neither does my family. I wish I knew why my ex is doing this. We weren't perfect, but I never thought they'd go this far. I'm trying to stay strong, but some days it feels impossible. I'm so tired of defending myself all the time. I just want to live my life without all this drama
Your ex's actions say more about them than they do about you. Stay strong, focus on self-care, and don't let their negativity drag you down. This situation won't last forever
It is terrible that you have to deal with this and truly you dont deserve it. It is hurtful, stressful. Your ex motivation could be to inflict damage on you out of anger and revenge or to gain supporters communicating the false information or cope with their own insecurities by blaming it on you. I understand these all must be making you feel angry, powerless and deeply hurt. If you want to answer back to those people you can do it in a way like oh so sad he is doing it but i truly don't want to spend my energy talking about such things, or i don't want to give it much attention.
You know you cant control what people think about you but you should keep your head high and continue to be kind, compassionate person who would not stoop down to any level to damage someone else reputation. You jsut need ot understand that ex verbal actions are more about unresolved issues within the person than about you. Your actions and how you conduct yourself daily would speak volumes about you. It is the time to test your patience. But if it is still affecting you then you can see if you can use a third party to resolve this than direct communication with your ex. This could also help in solving underlying issues if any.