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Veena Choudhary
1y
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Learning to trust and to heal from a betrayal is a slow process and extremely challenging.



Write about your experience:


Answer these questions:


  • Was he cheating you over a long period of time?


  • Did he express remorse for their actions? or just left?


  • How did you feel at that time?


  • How did you find out he was cheating?


  • Compare yourself from what you were to what you have become? What has changed in you after that?


  • How is the person whom you are in relation with?


  • Write down the positives of your current relationship and about the person?


This will help you in pondering over all your feelings. See what is affecting you the most and address that factor to heal and move on.


Now answer these ones in a separate page:


  • According to you what is required in a relationship? examples like loyalty or understanding or trust. What are the factors important for u to have a healthy relationship?


  • After you have written that just compare what factors existed in the previous relationship and what was not there?


  • Now if loyalty is must for you in relationship then your previous relationship did not have this main factor from his side . How do you feel about that ?


  • Do you think relationship would have survived for longer time without the important factors you needed in relationship?


Ponder over this and see what have you learnt from this previous relationship and how the learnings can benefit you in the life.


  • Write down advantages of break up from the previous relationship. See the positives of the break up?


  • Start writing 3 positives about yourself everyday. along with it write down everyday what positive is happening in your life and relationship.


  • Delete your past. remove any of the memories you have of him like photos, gifts, delete from social networking sites . Learn to release the emotions by removing all the triggers that may bring up old memories and hurt.


  • Relationships like this undermine our self confidence and shake our self- esteem to the core. Help re build your inner stability by doing things you like.




Stop the thought , notice the thought and replace the thought.

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howell
1y

You are the author of your story, and you decide your fate. Whatever happens, I believe you have the strength to survive it. Most likely, because you have been dumped before, you now can't trust or fear that you will be dumped again...you are transferring your past relationships to the present....Let go of what hurts you. Don't hold on to things that drag you down.

darona
1y

of course you need to let go of past traumas...they make themselves known with anxiety!!!Take this as another lesson to be learned. Life can be hard, but you're stronger. Don't let it beat you. The next chapter of your life is going to be amazing.

eraynorа
1y

Hard times come upon us all, but we survive by becoming strong. You need to work on your previous relationship - understand why you were abandoned, what happened. Let go of past relationships. And then the new ones will be better. Cheer up, buddy!

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Rhyte Rhyte
1y

I’m truly sorry to hear that you’re going through this. Dealing with past traumas can be incredibly challenging, and it’s natural for it to affect your current relationship and well-being. please communicate, do not go through it alone, your partner can help you if he or she is invested in you BE Ready to put in the work too

trantow
1y

Forget the old relationship!!! Move on to new ones! Life is great!! And the future is great!!! You're already lucky!!! You're in a new relationship!!! You're gonna be fine!!!

darronkula
1y

everything you feel is a product of your thoughts, self-hypnosis. Say to yourself: "Even if it's a alarm, what's the big deal? I'll learn to live with it." And it'll pass. Don't get yourself worked up and do what's important to you.

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Andrew
1y

Time heals and everything will be forgotten. But psychosomatics happens, you have to work with it. With a psychologist or different exercises. everything can be handled.

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conroyn
1y

After reading the comments, I agree that it is necessary to definitely work through the psychotrauma associated with the breakup of relationships, rejection. Thinking about it causes anxiety and pain in the chest..... Try to work with your negative thoughts, or at least write them here

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Maria
1y

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this. It's understandable that past traumas can affect our present relationships and cause anxiety. It takes time to heal from these experiences and it's important to take care of yourself. Have you considered talking to a therapist? I've also experienced similar issues and a therapy really helped me

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lonely person
1y
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@trantow but the problem is his actions are hurting me more and more everyday and this triggers my anxiety what to do

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