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bugzee
1y ago

balancing physical and mental health

yo, im Hana. im 27 y.o and i live in the midwest united states.

its been a couple years now that ive been diagnosed with HPV 16&18, aka the worst strains of HPV you can have and the leading cause of cervical cancer.

i have had 2 surgeries to remove precancerous cells and now it looks like im going to have another one because the precancer cells are still on my cervix.


recovery from a LEEP procedure (where they remove part of your cervix that is infected with the precancer) is awful and painful and stressful.

i have no caring women in my life to talk to about this, other than my fiancé’s mother.


the worst part is, the more times i have to have a cervical LEEP surgery, the more it puts me at risk of 2nd trimester miscarriages and painful menstrual periods. that is, if i dont need to get a hysterectomy at some point.


im 20-goddamn-7 and my fiancé has 2 kiddos but i wanted to have one myself. my own baby. and the chance might be taken away from me before i can even think about it.


recovering from the surgeries, as well as trying to keep my head on straight and make sure i’m managing my gastrointestinal issues as well (cuz i have an ulcer and esophagitis..)


its really fresh right now because every time they give me a pelvic exam, i cry. im sick of this, im sick of crying and hurting and trying to put on a brave face.

when i am so so scared of what the end result might be and meanwhile making sure my fiancé is okay cuz hes going through a depressive episode as well.


its a ton going on.


i have an appointment in a couple of hours with my OBGYN (hes wonderful!) about what our next steps are. im so nervous and i just want to stay in bed for the next week..

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Veena Choudhary
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Communicating how you feel is the first step towards feeling better. It is good you chose a platform to talk out the feelings of fear, worry, sadness, tiredness. It is understandable there are lot of emotions rushing within you right now. you fear end result and feel life is out of control. it is normal to feel like that. You don't have to put on brave face. Process what ever you are feelings and it is okie to feel low, weak. you don't have to be brave or put a brave face. try to be aware of your emotions and just express what ever emotion you feel. let your mind process it. certain times you can even write what you feel. When you openly express your feelings every time it will help you in releasing all those feelings out than trying to show you are strong but feeling something else within you.


Learn further about your treatment would help to give you clarity about it.Some fear always develops as we don't have much information about it and we read articles on internet and start believing it. I would suggest you to kindly talk to your doctor about it who can give you clear concise information. When you learn the facts it would help you. Your active involvement in recovery with information about clear treatment plan will help counter the feeling of helplessness and confusion.


it may be hard at first but try to do things which makes you feel good. creativity, walking or baking or gardening or listening to music, meditation anything which can help you unwind.

There is rarely any impact on fertility and pregnancy after a LEEP. So do discuss all your concerns and queries with your GYNAEC. This will help in reducing the worry and stress.


You also need to talk to your Fiance for seeing a psychologist. it would help him.

Säde
1y

Hi, Hana

Surgeries are always worrisome, even when there are no hypothetical risks involved. About your fears, I can tell you this: I was a ball of nerves for years about the same issue (having a baby in the future), because I have polycystic ovaries and am on permanent hormonal pills (until I decide to try getting pregnant). Potentially, it may cause many problems for me and make getting pregnant a hard task. I’ve consulted many gynecologists (literally more than 10 since I knew the diagnosis) and all of them told me there are always options. One of them is freezing my eggs. I’m 26 (almost the same age with you:), so I haven’t decided for now that I need it. Besides, my boyfriend is not quite ready to plan a baby right now. But I’m seriously considering it as an option in two-three years. If you want to have a baby, all the universe will help you with it! Believe in it, and everything will be all right and as it should.

Good luck with your appointment!

Ra
Rachelle
1y

Maybe you won’t need any more surgeries, right? I’m sure doctors are professionals in the US, and they’ll do all they can to cause the least possible risk. I wish you a quick recovery this time. Take care.

Hoping to get a happy update from you 🌻

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Rachelle
1y

Did it go well this time?

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J-ane
1y

Are you taking any antianxiety pills now?

Please take my thoughts only as random stranger’s thoughts, I don’t have a medical education, but I’ve been through severe depression and juggling other health problems at the same time.

Sometimes the extra help is needed and welcome, stress and worries are damaging in many ways more than any other diseases.

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Anna Sun
1y

If you can afford it, perhaps seeing a therapist on a regular basis might help you cope with what you’re going through. I assume your boyfriend is getting help for his depression too? It’s admirable that you’re willing to make sure he is okay, however you can take only so much, and it’s the responsibility of each partner to take care of their mental well-being. I wish from all my heart that your physical and mental problems leave you for good and allow you to experience all the joys of maternity!

marinavs
1y

Did your doctor mention that they can do a cerclage to prevent the potential of preterm birth?

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Violet omen
1y

Glad you caught the pre cancer cells early!

A lot of women undergo the LEEP and later have healthy babies. They probably sent you to a high risk doctor due to routine procedures. Do not allow the scary thoughts about the hypothetical future ruin your present. Risks are not guarantees.

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Kajalla
1y

I am absolutely sure if a woman’s desire to have babies is so strong, nothing will stop her from it. I assure you, you WILL have your own baby, keep moving in that direction. 🤞 Fingers crossed that you won't have any complications

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fiotsudare
1y

Have you discussed your fears with your gynecologist? He can probably suggest all the possible help needed for you to have a normal childbirth. I’ve heard that short cervix can be somewhat treated with progesterone, though I don’t know any more than that.

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dr gerrwig
1y

I can assure you that most women who have undergone LEEP have gone on to have successful pregnancies and healthy babies. While there may be a slight increase in the risk of miscarriage after the procedure, your healthcare team will surely monitor your progress and provide you with the necessary care throughout your journey towards motherhood. Just make sure to attend all scheduled follow-up appointments to monitor your recovery and ensure proper healing. Trust in their expertise, they have your best interests at heart.

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