I have been married for two years and for months now my husband had been picking on every little thing I do, shouting and insulting me. I felt something wasn't right so I went to his phone where I discovered he has been cheating on me. At first I felt maybe I wasn't attractive anymore or because I now had a baby and he want fresh meat, only for me to discover this woman is married with two kids though having issues in her marriage but she isn't divorced. Then I also discovered she was the one behind all the expensive gifts my husband had been coming home with.

I confront my husband with his and he actually blames me for pushing him into it and if I can't tolerate it I can walk and he won't be the first to have a broken marriage after two years. I was pained lost in the thought of how I pushed him into cheating, so I managed to calm everyone down so we can talk properly, where he admitted that yes he is cheating and he isn't the first and won't be the last person to do so.

I put myself together and was just observing him, after few days, he came back home that evening begging that truly I didn't push him into anything, that it was all him, that he was sorry and won't put me in such situation again, he would do right by me, be home early and will stop picking on me. Then I asked his plan forward with his woman, then he said he can't call it quite with her like that because he doesn't want it to look like a use and dump situation, that he would look for a perfect situation to break it up with her so for now he will still have to be seeing her. I should give him My trust again.

Ofcus that wasn't okay with me but I love My husband and I want to save My marriage so what can I do. I accepted

But then, like he said he comes home early but doesn't spend time with my son and I. He is always on his cell phone and when I complain about this he shouts at me saying what do I want from him, do we want to kill him, so he shouldn't be free in his own house, that I am caging him.

I tried to explain to him that all I ask for is at least 30min of his time outside his mobile phone with us. Instead of always being body present but absent minded.

But no matter how I say he sees it as my lack of trust for him, that I feel he is chatting with that woman.

I can't also call him while he is not at home, he shout at me that I am disturbing him and I am calling him because I don't trust him thinking he is with another woman.

I am confused, tired, emotionally and mentally drained, above all I don't know what to do, I can't talk to my parents about this I don't have anyone to talk to anymore. I am marriage yet I am even more lonely that a single lady. I am tired and don't know what to do.

Hi, I’m a guy, age 25, from India

I have a casual relationship with a girl, she’s 24

I’m confused about whether to marry her or not

Her behaviour is very good generally to me, but at times we have really ugly fights.

She abuses and later she accepts it and try to compensate

She’s orphan and sometimes behaves very impulsively..

in starting weeks she had sex with another guy once

and moreover she has been in a live in relationship of 2.5 years.

And before that she had a relationship of 3 years

she just started doing a job

she’s not very beautiful, average, but I like her company

I’m confused if this is love or just affection, we are having physical relationship from last 6 months

she pampers her friends as well so I’m not too sure if I’m special or not

she has a nature to victimise herself

she cheated on her boyfriend and had it with me, she’s impressed by my singing skills,

my concern is that if I commit to her, she can possibly cheat on me too, she’s a bit dominating too, she’s clever as well

I’m not sure if she wants me because she loves me or because I earn well, have a stable life

other than this 3-4 times when I was really really drunk and did unexpected things she was with me at that time and took me to her place. Never left me

please help and ask for any details if required

I lack motivation these days. I don't enjoy anything and I can't stay focused. My mind keeps wandering and it doesn't help that I have exams coming up. I don't enjoy music as much, or games, or reading, or drawing, nothing at all. I've tried looking for new hobbies which I immerse myself in but lose interest after a few hours or a day at most. I don't have much people to talk to or talk about my problem with. My exams are my most pressing issue because I'm really behind in my studies but I can't seem to focus on more than a page a day. It's frustrating. I wake up everyday feeling this impending sense of doom, and I have to calm myself by breaking down how simple the tasks of the day are and how it's not all that bad compared to bigger problems in the world. I think about how if I fail it won't matter how I felt or what I was going through, all that matters and all people will know is that I failed. I think about this a lot, but it doesn't help.

I am stucked between the my choices and responsibilities of my family

I have to do a job for them so that I can help them financially

I don't want to hurt anyone to keep them happy i am struggling for the career and job

Fears to accept the new opportunities in the job as I want a fruitful environment who listen and understand the employee. But confused did I move with my choices or be the part of my family as a financial supporter

Because I belong to middle class family who struggles every day every second to do something good for them