I have been married for two years and for months now my husband had been picking on every little thing I do, shouting and insulting me. I felt something wasn't right so I went to his phone where I discovered he has been cheating on me. At first I felt maybe I wasn't attractive anymore or because I now had a baby and he want fresh meat, only for me to discover this woman is married with two kids though having issues in her marriage but she isn't divorced. Then I also discovered she was the one behind all the expensive gifts my husband had been coming home with.
I confront my husband with his and he actually blames me for pushing him into it and if I can't tolerate it I can walk and he won't be the first to have a broken marriage after two years. I was pained lost in the thought of how I pushed him into cheating, so I managed to calm everyone down so we can talk properly, where he admitted that yes he is cheating and he isn't the first and won't be the last person to do so.
I put myself together and was just observing him, after few days, he came back home that evening begging that truly I didn't push him into anything, that it was all him, that he was sorry and won't put me in such situation again, he would do right by me, be home early and will stop picking on me. Then I asked his plan forward with his woman, then he said he can't call it quite with her like that because he doesn't want it to look like a use and dump situation, that he would look for a perfect situation to break it up with her so for now he will still have to be seeing her. I should give him My trust again.
Ofcus that wasn't okay with me but I love My husband and I want to save My marriage so what can I do. I accepted
But then, like he said he comes home early but doesn't spend time with my son and I. He is always on his cell phone and when I complain about this he shouts at me saying what do I want from him, do we want to kill him, so he shouldn't be free in his own house, that I am caging him.
I tried to explain to him that all I ask for is at least 30min of his time outside his mobile phone with us. Instead of always being body present but absent minded.
But no matter how I say he sees it as my lack of trust for him, that I feel he is chatting with that woman.
I can't also call him while he is not at home, he shout at me that I am disturbing him and I am calling him because I don't trust him thinking he is with another woman.
I am confused, tired, emotionally and mentally drained, above all I don't know what to do, I can't talk to my parents about this I don't have anyone to talk to anymore. I am marriage yet I am even more lonely that a single lady. I am tired and don't know what to do.
