Yeah!! Am 25 and am in a healthy relationship, it's been 2 yrs now and am genuinely happy. He always take good care of me. He makes me happy. He makes me smile effortlessly. He feeds me. He protects me. He care for me. It's all good actually. Am so crazy about him
But sometimes it's hard you know. We won't fight a lot. But sometimes we do. At that time, I wanted to talk and express myself. Expressing my inner feelings makes me feel so much better instead of holding it in deep! But every time while I try do that I end up being a bad person. But 99% I won't do any bad or wrong thing fa sure.. then I dk why I end up being a bad person like that. It makes me feel useless. I always put myself behind to make him happy. I always priorities him. But still why I end up being a bad person, why am not enough, why I can't make him understand that all I need is reassurance and safe space to open up myself. Is this too much ask.. why he can't understand instead leaving me, instead of shouting at me he can just hug me and talk to me normally. Why he can't understand that all am needing is his comforting guesters, words actions, ect.
Instead of asking me where you wanna go.. I want him to make plans for me. I wanted him to say. Hey see this I saw this place while scrolling insta feeds or whatever or else there is an amazing place over there we are going there on this weekend. Why he can't make a happy plan for me?? Is this too much to ask..???
I always concerned about his health, I wanted the same! I wanted him to take me to the hospital. Sometimes he does. Sometimes he won't. There is a small prblm in my body that need immediate doctor consultation but he told multiple times that I need to see a doctor. But he never ordered or take me to the hospital for that particular reason. There is always an excuse for not being done. Why he can't take me to the hospital if it's not emergency?? Is this too much to ask?
I want him to take care of me !! He really does!! But am a stubborn kid.. I wanted a little more! Is this too much to ask..
Asking little more care, attention, love, craziness, passionate, kind gesture, love language, being cliche!!
Is this too much to ask??
Am I not worthy
Am I not deserving
Am I not enough
Why can't i live a normal like??
Why there is always so much pressure on me??
Why should I always be mature??
Why Should I always need to take responsibility??
Why I can't act silly??
sounds like you’re sacrificing too much for this relationship. a relationship should be balanced, not one-sided. i remember when i was in a similar situation, always putting my partner’s needs before mine. it didn’t end well. you need to communicate your needs clearly and see if he’s willing to meet you halfway. if not, it might be time to reconsider the relationship. you deserve to be happy and feel valued. don’t settle for less. it’s not too much to ask for a partner to care for you as much as you care for them.
Everyone has their own unique way of expressing love and affection, and it's important to communicate with each other about what makes each of you feel loved and cared for. For example, if you feel that you need more verbal affirmation, communicate that to your partner and ask him what he needs from you in return to feel loved and supported. Ultimately, relationships take work, and it's essential to continue to communicate openly and honestly about your needs and feelings in order to maintain a healthy and fulfilling partnership.
@ofeliA Absolutely, I agree with this! Communication is key in any relationship, and it's important to understand how your partner prefers to show and receive love. Everyone has their own love language, and it's crucial that we acknowledge and respect each other's needs. Being open and honest about our feelings and expectations can help us build a stronger and more loving connection.
I love the people in my life deeply, but I don't always show it in the way you described. It's not because I don't care or don't love them enough. It's just that I have my own way of expressing love and care. For example, I find it tough to make detailed plans or to take someone to the hospital. I can be there for them in other ways, like listening to their problems or spending quality time together. It's not that I don't want to do more.. it's just that I'm not wired that way. Some people are naturally good at taking charge and making plans, but that doesn't come easily to me. I think it's important to recognize that love can be expressed in many different ways.
Sometimes, I feel guilty because I know I could do more, but it just doesn't come naturally to me. I prefer to support my loved ones in ways that feel comfortable for me, even if they might not always see it as enough.
It's okay to want what you give in a relationship; that's not too much to ask at all. Relationships are about mutual support, care, and understanding, and your needs and feelings are just as important as your partner's. It's understandable that you want reassurance, a safe space to express your emotions, and gestures of love and care. These are fundamental aspects of a healthy relationship, and wanting them doesn't make you demanding or unreasonable.
It's clear how much you care about him. It's okay to want more from the relationship. Your feelings are valid, and it's okay to express them. It's tough when you feel like you're not enough. You are doing your best to make things work. It's okay to want more care and attention. Your needs are important too. It's okay to feel this way. You are worthy of love and care. It's okay to express your desires. You are enough just as you are. It's okay to take things one step at a time.
I get what you’re saying. You have this amazing relationship, and he makes you so happy, but there are still moments when things are tough. It’s like you want to express your feelings, but when you do, it doesn’t go as planned. I’ve been there too, feeling like I’m the bad person even when I’m just trying to open up. It’s hard when you put yourself behind to make someone else happy, but you still feel like it’s not enough. I understand wanting reassurance and a safe space to talk about your feelings. It’s not too much to ask.
I hear your pain and your longing for understanding and comfort. Relationships can be very complex and challenging. I want to share with you some insights from Buddhism that have brought me peace and clarity in my own life. Buddhism teaches us that suffering is a natural part of life. This might sound daunting, but it's actually a path to liberation. When we recognize that suffering is inevitable, we can begin to transform it. It's not about avoiding pain but understanding it deeply.
In your relationship, it seems like you feel misunderstood and unappreciated at times. This is a common experience for many of us. Buddhism encourages us to practice compassion, not just for others but for ourselves. You are worthy of love and care, and it's important to acknowledge your own needs. One of the core teachings of Buddhism is the idea of impermanence. Everything in life is constantly changing, including our relationships. This doesn't mean we can't find stability, but it reminds us to be adaptable and open to change. Your feelings and your partner's actions are part of this flow.
It's also important to practice deep listening. This means fully focusing on what the other person is saying without planning your response while they are talking. When your partner feels heard, they may be more open to understanding your needs. Buddhism also teaches us about the concept of attachment. Sometimes, we hold on too tightly to our desires and expectations, which can lead to suffering. It doesn't mean we shouldn't have desires, but we should recognize when they are causing us pain. Try to find a balance between expressing your needs and letting go of rigid expectations.
@Orlando Hi! I’m actually going through the same things with my bf and your advice really stuck with me! Can you tell a bit more? Sorry if bothering you..I just really need to find a solution. My boyfriend upsets me so much lately. I just can’t-
Kitty, I can feel your frustration through the screen. Just yesterday my bf and I were arguing about this 🤣
It's clear that you love your partner deeply and that you consistently go out of your way to make him happy, often putting his needs and desires before your own. You deserve to feel valued+ heard+ supported in your relationship. It's not too much to ask for your partner to make plans with you, to take you to the doctor when needed, or to simply be there for you when you are going through tough times. These are not just basic gestures of care and love, but essential components of a healthy and balanced relationship that should be reciprocated by both partners. Everyone deserves to feel appreciated and to have their efforts recognized and returned.