I urge you to PLEASE reconsider your thoughts of self-harm. Suicide is not the answer, and there are better ways to address the challenges you are facing. You deserve to live a life free from discrimination and fear. You’re only 21, you can flee your country and find a better life elsewhere. You will be useful to your cause when you’re alive. Your death will not help you change the situation in your country. It never helps anyone, it only brings more grief and pain.
Your situation is incredibly difficult. I don’t know how to help. Please know that your life is valuable, and there are people who care about you and want you to live.
Have you reached out to international LGBTQ+ organizations or helplines for assistance? They might be able to protect you and they will have the resources to make your situation known to the public. Your story is important. By sharing your experiences, you can help raise awareness and make a difference for others in similar situations. Your death means you choose to go without a fight. Your life has meaning, and your courage to live one and fight can inspire change.
Hey man, take a moment to breathe. You’re in a hurry to make a huge mistake.
Contact the Trevor Project, they can help. There are individuals and organizations ready to stand by you and advocate for your rights and well-being, as long as you’re alive. If you truly want to sacrifice and help other gay men like you, you must make your voice heard. You may need to disclose your identity to the journalists who will wish to help you raise the awareness. All this needs time and planning. You need time!
Suicide will not help your cause in any way. The world is better with you in it. If we stand together, we can make this world a better, more inclusive place. Write to me if you want to talk about it.
I’m afraid I have no useful advice, but I hope you know that despite your current circumstance, you have the chance to find a lot of good in your future life. You’re angry and hopeless now, and it all feels wrong, I’ve been there, honestly. These feelings won’t last forever. Finding a goal has really helped me to move on. It seems like you want to bring changes to your country’s perception of LGBTQ+. You won’t be able to do this alone, just as other people like you won’t be able to do this without you. You need each other. Does that thought help a bit?
@lokkwood I have contacted them and they said there services don’t go beyond US, and at the moment am not with a perception of fleeing as I don’t think it will make any difference of the situation in my country.
but thanks, I appreciate your advice
@later Thanks for your concern, but at the moment am not looking at fleeing, I want to do something that will at least help those whose identity hasn’t been found, after all at the moment I do feel worthless, I believe doing this will make me worthy. I hope
@8nicholas8 How I wish your statement was real in my life, unfortunately or fortunately know one really cares.
Hello,
I understand that you've been through a very hard time. You must be feeling hopeless, and suicide may seem like the only way out for you right now. However, I can assure you that it is not. You might not have received proper help yet, but there is still support available. Please, look at this list of LGBTQ+ support resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/article/resources-for-international-lgbtq-youth/
Sometimes when we are under a lot of stress, we tend to see things through the very narrow perspective of the present moment, and it seems that the solutions to the problem are more limited than they actually are. Often, a week or a month later, things look completely different. There have been many instances where people who thought of killing themselves were glad they were still alive once the pain had subsided. As they said, they didn't want their life to end; they just wanted the pain to end.
I encourage you to take a moment to breathe. Get yourself in a quiet place and take a few deep breaths: breathe in through the nose for 5 counts and breathe out through the mouth for 7 counts. Repeat it until you feel more calm. Then, take some time to think of alternative ways you can contribute to the LGBTQ+ community while staying alive.
It's worth recognizing that by continuing to live your life, you are actively resisting and defying the forces that would rather you not be present or have a voice. For now, you can put your focus on keeping yourself safe and come up with a plan to get yourself into an LGBT-friendly environment to do more later.
Think of how much you can do once you go through this tough period. For example, you can spread your message by telling about everything you've overcome and inspiring your folks to keep living and fighting. Or, you can volunteer for LGBTQ+ organizations.
There are many other ways to make the world more aware of the situation in Uganda and help LGBTQ+ people in your country, like:
1. Writing articles or blogs about your experiences and the challenges faced by the LGBTQ+ community in Uganda.
2. Participating in peaceful protests and rallies to raise awareness and advocate for LGBTQ+ rights.
3. Connecting with international LGBTQ+ organizations and human rights groups to highlight the issues and seek support.
Even by writing about the situation here, you have already brought attention to the issue.
Once you feel less stressed, you can think of a proper plan and concrete steps, for example:
1. Researching and identifying LGBTQ+ friendly cities or countries where you can seek asylum or relocate.
2. Finding online or in-person support groups to connect with others who understand your struggles.
3. Exploring legal resources and organizations that can assist you in protecting your rights and seeking justice.
4. Looking for a job that can allow you to save money in order to get yourself in a more safe position.
Please, remember that your life has profound value. Society requires voices like yours to grow and progress.
i understand the painful and complicated situation you are in. With this considerable pain there are too many thoughts running in your head. It is not letting you think in a right way. you need to calm down and think what is the right way to handle the situation.
You need to prepare a safety plan for yourself. Think can you apply abroad for further studies and then decide how you want to help others who are going through the same thing.
You need to think and write down by living how can you help others for longer run in your life and how many lives can you save through that.
You also need to understand what example are you setting for the LGBTQ by ideation of killing yourself. Do you want to exhibit the trait of fear or confidence to fight for it. Remember for working for your's and their betterment and safety should be your goal. Many people are working hard around the globe to support and help the community for the dignity and respect it deserves. You be one of them too who could make some difference to the society.
Kindly don't hurt yourself. Just be proud of who you are. You are worth much more.
See if HIAS can help you.