Sorry to hear it’s been a struggle for ya. When my friend’s old man died, the same thing happened, and all his brothers turned on each other and on him... Humans are so greedy! But family is family, can’t choose them. I don’t know much about these legal things, but I suppose your mother is the direct beneficiary of the family trust? In that case, it might be unwise to legally challenge your sister over the dispute of trust. It’ll probably cost you more money than you may potentially win. But I’m no expert, you’d best consult some free legal advice hotlines, some states have them.
Hi, I don’t think that psychotic disorders (if you have an official diagnosis and didn’t just mean it as a figure of speech) should be left unaddressed. Even though I understand there’s a lot of stress and family issues in your life now, please 🙏 make sure you’re taking good care of yourself and talking to a counselor/psychiatrist. Hang in there, sending positive vibes your way!
One thing I’ve learned with narcissistic family members is that if you show them a weakness, they’ll absolutely try to exploit it, always. Not sure what to advise, but stick to your guns, at least when it comes to keeping your sister away from your money.
Family conflicts over money are always nightmarish! As far as I understood, you depend on your mother, since you live with her. Is it even possible to negotiate with her? Sometimes it’s worth trying to have open conversations. Express your concerns calmly and clearly, and listen to her perspective. Explain to her why you believe you need this money more than your sister. If your sister has a job, point it out and insist that she can provide for herself, while you’ve found it hard to find a job for now. Mothers love all their children, even if they have a funny way of showing it. I’m sure you can win your mother over if you’re honest with her.
There's no winning with these kinds of people, it's not worth spending your energy and your health on them. I wouldn’t let your emotions get the best of you. Ideally, it would be great to hire a financial advisor who’ll ensure that your needs are met and will help you set some legal boundaries over the money.
First and foremost, I advise you to prioritize your well-being and mental health; it’s more important than all the money in the world. Finding the right therapist and medication that works for you is a long journey. Don’t give up on therapy because of some unprofessional representatives! I’m sure therapy may help you connect with your mother and establish a warmer and more trusting relationship with her. I don’t know anything about your sister, but if you write that she’s a narcissist, I don’t think you need her in your life; you’ll be better off going no contact with her. You need to protect yourself while you’re finding your way to financial freedom. If you can get back into therapy, it can be a great outlet for your negative feelings. Patience and strength to you!
@SOguilty I’m the direct beneficiary. My Mom is a narcissist as well she wants the worst for me and that is the truth They can’t comprehend feelings and emotions of other people and totally self centered.. Their debating should I move to a group home or nursing home. So they obviously will pocket the money!
it is very important you get a right treatment for schizophrenia. With schizophrenia it is difficult to think clearly. There are various local support groups who can help. you need to find in your country who is that support group and approach them they will help you like in U.S.A there is pan foundation. or Nami.org. in U.K it is rethink.org who would offer you help with wide range of topics and your rights. With right treatment you will get back to work as well. the lack of treatment is dangerous as it would worsen your mental health condition.
I'm sorry that you're feeling stuck and unable to find appropriate support. Having a narcissistic person in your life can make managing your mental health conditions even more challenging, so I understand why you'd feel overwhelmed.
I recommend seeing if there's anyone else in your life whom you could talk to for an outside perspective and some emotional support - a close friend, another relative, a former teacher, etc. It's also worth looking for local social service programs and mental health agencies to see if they have any ideas on how to address your current situation. You can also call a mental health helpline in your country to talk through what you're experiencing and even get linked to support services. You can find mental health helplines listed by country here: https://findahelpline.com/
Meanwhile, there are a few things you can do to help yourself in this moment:
- Start small - set realistic goals and take things one step at a time. Don't push yourself too hard or expect too much, as this can create even more stress and frustration. For example, when looking for a support program, begin by searching online, then make a list of options with contact information, and start by calling or emailing the first one on the list.
- Try talking kindly to yourself and practice self-care. Take time out of your day each day to do something you find fun and relaxing, like watching a favorite show, dancing to music, reading a book, or playing a game. Journaling or drawing can also help express any overwhelming thoughts and emotions.
- Engage in healthy activities, such as a daily walk in a park, excercise routine, cooking nutritious meals, etc. These behaviors can improve your mood and contribute to both your physical and mental well-being.
I really hope that you get the support you deserve. Don't be too hard on yourself, and know that you're doing your best with what you've got.