How do you deal with kid’s social networking?

Hi,

I’m a mother of two, and both my sons, especially the youngest, are addicted to social networks. We try to limit their time on the phones, but we can’t control them at school. They watch stupid TikTok videos where they pick up all sorts of obscene words.. and everyone in their class watches same videos, then sends them in school chats. Whenever I say “don’t watch this”, my youngest son will say “But all the boys have already seen it, why can’t I?”. If I persist and forbid, he throws a tantrum, but if I let them watch the video, saying something like “This is the last time”, it has no effect. Maybe because they know that I’ve already said it before. I feel powerless.

I tried to push my sons’ love for mobile phones in the right direction and interest them in Scratch programming, which partially worked with my edlest son. But youngest is small for it, he’s 7. Too old for cartoons, but I think too young for social networks. Should I take his phone by force every time I can’t persuade him to do anything else?