Hey I have been cheated by a person one year ago and he left me and I am in a relationship with a new person but I think I haven't came out of my past traumas due to which I have a lot of anxiety issues and suffer a lot of chest pain .I don't know how to handle this anymore and I think because of which I have problems in my current relationship

I’ve been going to therapy to treat my general anxiety disorder and also to avoid work burnout. My therapist is very respectful and knowledgeable, she’s been at it for 40 years at least. I’ve had nagging pains in my low back and joints for months, and after many visits to several doctors, their final diagnosis was fibromyalgia. I've shared this with my therapist, and she validated my chronic pain and fatigue. However, she says it’s triggered by constant stress and my GAD, and she recommends me to start taking antidepressants.

I’m in doubts. On the one hand, I’ve been with my therapist for more than 3 years, and I trust her completely. She’s helped me with seasonal depression and other issues many times. On the other hand, I don’t feel that my pain is psychological, and I’m a little uncomfortable to further share it with my therapist now. I don’t know how to handle this.

Hi, my question will be somewhat delicate. I’m not quite sure whom to turn to or what to do next, so guess I just need some opinions on the matter.

I work in a library, and we have a mentally handicapped man working with us. I don’t know the details of his condition. He’s in his forties but acts like he’s 16. All my other colleagues are middle-aged women, I’m the only one without a family or kids. When I took the job, that man immediately took a liking to me and it sort of became our routine to chat a bit in the morning and after work. Nothing personal, we talk about favorite music and TV-shows. He tells me what he had cooked for breakfast (he lives with his mother) and the new Lego set he had bought. Initially I thought it was normal work chitchat, especially when we both get bored with repetitive daily tasks. But lately our communication has turned to direct flirting on his side. He always wants to help me with something, even though I don’t need any help. I tried to be polite and friendly, but eventually snapped a couple of times telling him he was distracting me from my work. He got offended and ignored me for several days walking back and forth past my working desk twenty times a day with a blank face. It was actually a relief, but it was not for long, and meanwhile my colleagues kept joking that I’d been rude to “our Jeff”. I secretly hoped he’d stay offended, but he showed up with a rose instead and doubled his flirting. He also became more aggressive, last month he came to work and put his arms on my shoulders asking for “free hugs” all the while smiling like it was something natural. I didn’t know how to react and tried to detach myself as quickly as possible. My colleague who was standing next to me patted him on the back and told him to go do his job, which he did. She finds his attentions to me “cute” and reminds me that he doesn’t fully understand the full consequences of his actions. I’m not sure this is true because he doesn’t act the same way to any other woman, but I never gave him any reasons to believe I’m interested. I took two weeks off before the holidays, hoping that we’ll all take a healthy break from one another and things might change for the better. My friend advised me to treat the man as I treat my female colleagues, to be very reserved and focus on my work. However, I find it hard to follow! I began avoiding our small cafeteria on the first floor and take the pains to have lunch at the mall next to the library, just to avoid any communication with Jeff outside work. It’s both longer and lonelier. I feel uncomfortable when he is around. Two days ago, he grabbed me by the hand near the elevator and tried to hold me, making inappropriate comments about my skirt. I told my manager about it, she shrugged it off, like all my other colleagues do. They think he’s harmless, and I almost feel ashamed for complaining to them. I tried to casually lie to Jeff that I have a boyfriend and am about to get married, and he didn’t show any signs of comprehension at my words, as if I were talking about my brother or about pizza. I feel like I’m some sort of trophy, and I’m supposed to be kind and understanding because I have no mental issues and he has.

So, how to handle this situation appropriately? I don’t want to get Jeff in trouble, but I don’t know how to stop it, without quitting my job? Or should I quit? The pay is not worth it, and the only reason I took it was to pay the bills quickly and because I thought it’s a great relaxing job.

Hello everyone. am unsure how to handle the situation. There is one man in my department who is consistently rude and condescending. This person has a habit of speaking down to others and has even yelled at a female coworker on several occasions for making minor mistakes. Last week I placed a piece of paper on a box in a manner that he didn't approve of, and he raised his voice and threw the paper on the floor. He is incredibly particular and frequently nitpicks over minor issues that are not even mistakes.

I feel worried about returning to work tomorrow as I must interact with him daily. Although I do not believe he will harm me, my brain has labeled him as a potential threat, and I fear he will make my job unbearable.