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annie
1y ago

i feel sick about my current situation

Recently, i decided to plan on transferring to a different university, but the schools' calendar weren't aligned. I feel really sick that I have to accept that there's a 90% that I won't get accepted and I have to continue studying at my current university, wherein it has a toxic environment and professors. I am poor so I have to rely on these state universities that offers free education, however I'm not really that smart to be accepted so I have limited options. I feel really sad and it affects my self-esteem not being able to study in a great university wherein I can grow. I fear that I have to force myself to study in my current university.


Because of my financial situation, I decided to apply for work and I got really anxious about the job interview. I overthink about not being able to pass due to my confidence. I was so anxious that my stomach continuously hurt as if the butterflies in my stomach are having a feast there. It made me feel very nauseous and i had to take a few deep breaths to stop these feelings. I am unable to have my interview to day, which means that I should expect more worse thing to happen in the next few days because I might be more anxious than I was today.


Because of these happenings, I got a really low self esteem, in which everytime an opportunity comes to me, I automatically assume that I won't get it or I would probably fail. It's making me feel nauseous just thinking about what can happen in these kind of situations.

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Dr. Elisabeth Jones
1y
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Hello!

I think you shouldn’t devalue your efforts and abilities. You could enter the university, and this is a great achievement. You know, not everyone can do it. You are writing that you don’t like the educational institution, teachers, students, etc. Unfortunately, sometimes reality doesn’t match expectations. In such situations, it can be useful to change the focus on the positive. Ask yourself: what opportunities do I have now? At least, you get higher education for free, that says a lot. You know, in some countries there is no such possibility at all.

Also, take a closer look at surrounding people: teachers, classmates. Among them, there are probably good people you can be on the same wave with.

As for your self-esteem and confidence - there is nothing fatal here either, everything can be fixed. It’s not easy, but it’s possible. Well, provided that you are willing to make some effort. The situation will not change by itself.

In order to successfully pass the interview, I suggest that you follow one simple technique. Remember one day when you felt good, confident, when you were overwhelmed with positive emotions. Maybe it was your birthday or some other holiday, or maybe a pleasant meeting with friends. Remember your state then. Having this state inside, imagine that you are being interviewed. Imagine how you confidently answer questions, how you successfully solve cases. Replay the situation of a successful interview in your mind several times, as if it were a short film with your participation. The peculiarity of our brain is that it does not distinguish between real and imaginary experience. Therefore, having “lived through” the interview mentally, it will be much easier for you to do it in reality. But don’t forget to feel the state of success I wrote about in the first part.

Good luck!

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bubu
1y

Look honey, I've seen people win at life even when they had zero education, all you need is the zest to do something with your life and not lose hope, no worries if you cannot change your university, knowledge isn't just served their if you have an Android or a smartphone you have the world with you already, go to YouTube google whatever you're curious about, take free courses and get online degrees, knowledge is available in every inch of our surrounding, just keep yourself motivated, okay?

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annie
1y
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@bubu thank u so much for supporting me 💗

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bubu
1y

@annie we're always here to support you, so even you need to support yourself😊

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