It sucks you have to go thought that. News about your ex definitely triggered that state of mind. It can be incredibly hard to see someone who once meant a lot to you seemingly move on and live the life you had imagined. But remember, it’s crucial to understand that your worth is not defined by this person or their actions. It’s frustrating that a lot of women worry about someone who at some point in time betrayed their trust. I don't know your situation, but it’s probably a typical one: you are beautiful, caring and loving, and he was the one who didn't appreciate and didn't see it. Do you rlly need to worry about someone who showed a lack of care and consideration towards your feelings?

It's painful, and deeply unfair, but it doesn't define who you are or your worthiness for love and respect. The person who failed here was him, not you

I know it's tough, but try to focus on what you do have. You have a job you love, you're successful, and you have the opportunity to travel and see the world. These are wonderful things that you've earned through your hard work and dedication. Don't let his actions take those achievements away from you. It's okay to take time to heal. It's okay to feel sad and to grieve for the relationship you lost. But remember, you don't need to carry the weight of his actions on your shoulders

Hey, I was in a similar situation. I was cheated on while we had been in a relationship for 5 years. I was prepared for him to propose, he took me on fancy vacations, hinted at a ring. I never look through my partners phones, but I probably should have. I dunno, I still don't, it's just not the way I was raised. I found out about the cheating from a friend who saw him kissing some girl in a diner and sent me a pic. If it wasn't for the pic, I swear I wouldn't have believed it. You can imagine how I felt at the time. We lived together, we had a dog together, our families were close friends. I immediately broke into tears, frantically dialing my father's number, who was furious. I was afraid he might do something to him back then. The breakup was difficult. I knew I would definitely leave, I would not forgive, but it didn't make it any easier. He called and texted me for a while, but I was undeterred. As a result, they're married with a child. Do I feel bad? Of course I fucking feel bad. I've been searching for the reason in myself for a long time, but, honey, it's not us, believe me.

@xoxo Ugh I agree, I hate it when women are hurt by men's actions. Anonymous, I can understand, I tend to be depressed. I stopped taking my meds and have been having a really hard time. Been sitting at home all days, but a week or so ago I decided I needed to make a change. And gradual recovery doesn't work for me. I like to do everything right away. Yes, it's very difficult, but I just basically pick myself up and leave the house and go really far away for the day. I like that feeling of being awake. Every time I feel like I'm drowning in my bed, I get up quickly, wash my face, get dressed and get out of the house. 15 minutes and I'm somewhere else. Forcing myself to do something has helped me a lot. Try it, maybe that's what 'll help you. I just noticed that in my circle everyone likes to do things slowly, and that doesn't suit me. I'm not saying it's bad, it just doesn't work for me

You have been through a terrible shock and I am so sorry. I know that feeling of so depressed that you don’t wanna do anything. The same time you cannot let this prevent you from living your fullest live. You are worth it you are enough

Oh, dear, I'm so sorry! You will find yourself a better person, A WAY BETTER person, who will love you unconditionally. And believe me when I say that such beautiful things are waiting for you. Just don'r loose faith! I'm so, so sorry! Please don't give up. Take a break from work and come back! I'm sure you are very much loved and missed there!

First and foremost, please remember that your feelings are valid, and it's okay to grieve the loss of the relationship no matter how good/bad it was. But we tend to remember only the good things at times like this. Allow yourself to acknowledge and process emotions without judging yourself. As tempting as it may be to isolate yourself and avoid your responsibilities, especially work, it's crucial to seek support from loved ones, friends, family. Remember that healing takes time, and it's essential to be patient with yourself You are stronger than you think and with time, support and self-care you will be able to get out of it. Stay strong and remember that brighter days are ahead.

Practicing self-care is more than IMPORTANT during these times. Engage in activities that bring you joy, allowing yourself to heal. And also: you can hide stories of those people who are in contact with him, therefore avoiding this situation in the future. But for now try to shift your focus towards rebuilding yourself and your life on YOUR terms. Explore new hobbies, set goals, surround yourself with positivity and people who’ll uplift you. You are not defined by your past or your past relationships

@Ima What a mess! Are men all the same? Because mine and I dated for 12 years and he got married after 1.5 years of dating another girl. I used to wonder what I was doing wrong, too. Blaming myself and looking for problems where there aren't any. It's not us, ladies! Now I'm single and happy. I finally have time for hobbies, meeting friends and traveling. Life always puts things in their proper place I guess.

I'm sorry you're going through this tough time. It's totally normal to feel lost and overwhelmed by emotions in this situation. It's hurtful seeing someone who caused you pain seemingly move on and find happiness, especially when you're still healing.

Give yourself time and space to grieve. It's okay to not be okay. It's okay to not want to go to work or see other people. But it's also important to take care of yourself. Eat, even if it's small amounts, try to get enough sleep, and talk to someone you trust about how you're feeling.