girl, this guy is a total asshole. like, seriously, who does he think he is?! you don't deserve to be treated like that, no one does. he's a coward for just disappearing like that. you know what? it's not your fault at all. you didn't do anything wrong. he's the one with the problem, not you. he's probably just a jerk who likes to play with people's feelings. i bet he does this to other girls too. guys like that never change. they just go from one person to the next
@error I can't stop thinking about him. Every time my phone buzzes, I hope it's him but it never is. I keep wondering if maybe something happened to him. What if he's hurt? Or what if his phone broke?
I know I'm probably just making excuses for him, but I can't help it. I really thought we had something special. We talked about so many things....our dreams, our fears, our favorite movies.... How can someone just fake all of that? I feel so lost and confused. I can't eat, I can't sleep
I just keep checking my messages, hoping I missed something. But there's nothing. Just silence. I feel like such a fool for opening up to him
@error I know what you're trying to say, but it's not that simple. I can't just turn off my feelings like a switch. We had such deep conversations. He told me about his childhood, his dreams for the future. How can someone fake all of that?
I keep thinking maybe there's been some misunderstanding. Maybe he's going through something and needs space. I know I sound naive, but I really believed in him. In us. We talked about traveling together, about our favorite books. He even remembered little details about things I like. How can someone put in all that effort just to disappear?
I feel so empty. Like a part of me is missing. I keep replaying our last conversation in my head, trying to figure out if I said something wrong. Maybe I came on too strong?
I just wish I knew what happened. The not knowing is killing me
@Alien listen, i know you're hurting right now, but you gotta snap out of it! this guy is not worth all this pain and stress. he's a total loser who doesn't deserve a second of your time. stop making excuses for him! his phone didn't break, he didn't get hurt, he's just a coward who can't face you. guys like this are all the same. they love bomb you, make you feel special, and then they ghost you. it's not your fault, it's all on him. he's probably done this to other girls before and he'll do it again. you dodged a bullet, trust me. i know it hurts now, but you're better off without him. you deserve someone who respects you and treats you right. not some jerk who disappears after getting what he wants. stop checking your phone and delete his number. he's not gonna text you back and you shouldn't want him to anyway. you're worth so much more than this!
@Alien girl, you're not listening to me! okay, i'm gonna be real with you because someone needs to knock some sense into you. this guy is a player, plain and simple. he's not "different", he's not "special", he's just good at manipulating people's feelings. all that stuff about his childhood and dreams? that's manipulation. he tells you what you want to hear to get you hooked. and guess what? it worked! you're sitting here making excuses for him when he's probably already moved on to his next victim. stop trying to figure out what you did wrong because you didn't do anything wrong! he's the one with the problem. he's a liar and a coward
Yep, you're way better off without him. I know it hurts right now, but trust me, you dodged a bullet. Imagine if you had gotten more serious with him and then he pulled this stunt. That would've been even worse
Don't waste any more time thinking about what you could've done differently. You were just being yourself, and that's always the right thing to do. If he can't appreciate that, it's his loss
Focus on yourself now. Do things that make you happy. Hang out with your friends. Watch your favorite movies. Eat some comfort food. Whatever makes you feel good. You'll get through this and come out stronger
@Z O R A I can't stop thinking about him. I keep checking his social media, hoping for some sign that he's thinking about me too. But there's nothing. It's like I never existed to him. How can someone just switch off their feelings like that?
I thought we had something real. I opened up to him, told him things I've never told anyone else. And now I feel so exposed and vulnerable. It's not just the ghosting that hurts, it's the betrayal of trust. I trusted him with my feelings, my body, my time. And he just threw it all away like it meant nothing
I can't help but wonder if he's doing this to someone else now. Is he out there, sweet-talking another girl, making her feel special, only to disappear on her too? The thought makes me sick
I know you're right, that I'm better off without someone who would treat me like this but knowing that doesn't make the pain go away. I just wish I could fast forward through this hurt and be okay again
@Z O R A I've been trying to keep busy, but everything reminds me of him. I feel like I'm losing pieces of myself. God that sounds so cliche....
I've lost my appetite, I can't sleep properly, and I'm struggling to focus at work. My friends are worried about me, but I don't know how to explain to them that I can't just "get over it". It's not that simple
I keep wondering if I'll ever be able to trust someone again. What if I'm too scared to open up next time? What if I miss out on something great because I'm too afraid of getting hurt again?
And then there's the shame. I feel so embarrassed that I fell for his act, that I let myself be fooled. I should have known better, right? Maybe there were red flags that I ignored because I wanted it to work so badly. I just wish I could understand why. Why did he do this? Why wasn't I enough?
@I'm Ryan Thank you...
I'm trying to tell myself that, but at the moment it's hard to believe all of it
@Alien I totally get it, hun. Heartbreak is the worst, you invested your time and emotions into this guy, and he let you down big time. That's not on you, that's on him. He's the one with the problem, not you
I know it's hard not to obsess over what happened, but try to understand that his actions say everything about him and nothing about you. You didn't do anything wrong by being open and trusting. Those are good qualities, and the right person will appreciate them
I know it's tempting ti check socials, but it's only going to prolong your pain. Consider taking a break from social media for a while, or at least muting his accounts. It might help give you some peace of mind
And don't worry about him doing this to someone else, that's not your responsibility. Focus on taking care of yourself right now
@Z O R A I agree!! And remember, there are plenty of good guys out there who won't treat you like this. Don't let this jerk make you lose faith in all men. When you're ready, you'll find someone who treats you right. For now, just know that you're awesome and you deserve so much better than this
Hey, I totally get where you're coming from. A few months ago, I met this amazing girl. We talked for weeks it felt like we had this incredible connection. She was funny, smart, we liked all the same things. I thought I'd finally found someone special. But then, just like that, she disappeared. No calls, no texts, nothing. I tried reaching out, but it was like she'd vanished. I felt so confused and hurt. I kept wondering what I did wrong, if I said something stupid, or if I was just not good enough. It's been a while now, and I still don't have any answers. But I want you to know you're not alone in feeling this way. It's not your fault, and you didn't do anything wrong. Some people are just cowards who can't be honest about their feelings.
@ruiz Wow, thank you so much for sharing your story. It really helps to know I'm not the only one who's gone through this
I'm sorry that happened to you too. How did you cope with it? I'm struggling to move on and stop thinking about him. Every time my phone buzzes, I hope it's him, but it never is. I keep checking his social media, but there's nothing new
I can't stop torturing myself. Did you go through something similar? How long did it take you to feel better? I'm trying to stay busy and distract myself, but it's hard
My friends are telling me to just forget about him, but it's not that easy. I really thought we had something specia. It's not just the ghosting that hurts, it's the feeling that I misjudged everything so badly
@ruiz Thank you so much for your advice and understanding. It really means a lot to me. I've been trying to focus on myself, but it's been tough
I'm trying to hang out with friends more, but I feel like I'm bringing everyone down with my mood. They're getting tired of hearing about him, I can tell. I'm scared I'll never find someone I connect with like that again. What if he was "the one" and I messed it up somehow
I keep replaying our last conversation in my head, trying to figure out what went wrong
I'm not sure if I want to hear from him or if it would just make things worse. Part of me wants an explanation, but another part is afraid of what he might say
@ruiz Your words are really comforting. I'm trying to be patient with myself, but it's hard
I've been thinking about deleting everything, but I can't bring myself to do it yet. I've been having trouble sleeping lately. I keep having dreams about him, and then I wake up feeling awful
I'm trying to stay busy, but sometimes I feel like I'm just going through the motions. I want to feel excited about life again, you know? It's like he took a part of me with him when he left
@Alien TBH, coping wasn't easy. I went through all the same things you're describing. Constantly checking my phone, hoping for a message, stalking her social media, but you need to start focusing on yourself. I had to remind myself that her actions weren't a reflection of my worth. It's not about you being too eager or available, it's about them not being mature enough to communicate honestly. It took me about two months to feel somewhat normal again. Don't rush yourself, though
@Alien True friends will stick by you even when you're not at your best. Tty talking to them about other things too, to give both you and them a break from the topic. I never did get closure from her, and at first, that drove me crazy. I wanted answers so badly. But over time, I realized that closure comes from within. No explanation from him will make you feel better instantly. It's a process of accepting what happened and choosing to move forward. Unanswered questions are tough, but I started to see them as a sign that I deserved better
It is distressing and confusing when a person just vanishes without a reason. It could be due to fear of confrontation or lack of communication skills or he is not ready for relationship. What ever could be the reason problem was with him that he could not confront so don't take it personally and start beating yourself up over it. This will ruin your self esteem. Always remember that your relationship status should not define your worth as a person. It is a painful experience but time will heal it. write down how you feel everyday instead of ruminating with thoughts in your head. Releasing out your feelings in a book would make you feel lighter. Start planning your days and delete his phone number, messages and social media account. Other wise you would try messaging him or checking him on social media.
Also you were ready to communicate and he disappeared which speaks volume about you as a person. This talks about your personality and characteristic traits. You showed up maturity. bravo to you for that. He thought of himself and was disrespectful. I understand too many thoughts running in your head of giving him the benefit of doubt like may be his phone broke or may be something has happened. but stop all this and just think about you, how are you feeling, how do you want to be treated, do you think there would have been future with him if initially his behaviour was like this. This is all an learning in your life. you deserve to be happy. Slowly you will get out of it . it will take time to heal but you would. just write down everyday how you feel. see if not checking his social media nor messages and deleting everything how does it feel. Do it for a week and see if intensity of pain reduces.