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Rafee Ahsan
253d ago

I might have PTSD and i really need HELP

I was in a relationship with a girl. We were engaged. She was my best friend for 4 years and after so many ups and downs we got in a relationship. But i was so blind in love that i didnt realise it was one sisded and one day she was gone unnoticed. It took me years to heal from that but after 3 years i met a girl she was sweet loving caring like everything i wanted from a partner. The girl of my dreams. So i thought of giving it a chance. It was long distance but we planned to meet eachother. Everything was going good. I used to stay in facetime , txt her good morning and good night txts. Used to motvate her. Used to send her flowers like a sweet lovestory yk!! But suddenly all started falling apart. All the things she said she loved about me she started getting irritated. She didnt respond to my txt that much used to say 1/2 hours per day is enough even tho its long distance and all i had is her presence. Like everything crashed downs and one day she left me saying she cheated on me and i cried my soul out coz i dreamt my entire life with her. I didnt wanna let her go. She hung up saying i dont have self respect. Days go by i try to suck it in but suddenly she txts me back saying she sorry. Rather resenting her. I felt bad for her. But it true that she is with someone else. Now whenever i try to sleep i hear her voice. I see the moment. I get nightmares of my oartner cheating on me. Some random dream when im being left alone in the dark being cheated on my heartrate starts spiking like crazy to the point i jump out of my sleep and i cant breathe and sweat like crazy. I cant sleep cant stop the voices in my head. All i cant think is this bad thing is gonna keep repeating itself. Pls i cant afford a therapist so i shared my story. Pls help me

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Veena Choudhary
245d
Specialist

Hi,


Dreams caused because of painful breakup are usually due to unresolved feelings and closure or dealing from past trauma. You need to process your emotions and let go all the feelings attached with the first relationship and then the second. When ever such break up happens it tarnishes us internally and is huge blow to our ego as well. It leaves us with questions in our mind which we are not able to process like what did i do wrong that she left me? why wasn't i good enough? When these questions don't get answered, when we start finding faults in us thats when dreams start. This dream turns into nightmare reflecting those aspects of our life which hurt you and you were not able to resolve it and blamed it on you for happening again. This dream is an indication of underlying cause of enabling yourself to speak up for this as your emotions of anger, frustration, betrayal is not being shown instead you just feeling bad for her. but within you there is so much of emotional turmoil. addressing those emotions will help you heal over it. Do not blame yourself and speak your heart out to her. or you can just write down whatever you felt but don't post it to her. your dreams are indicating to you to speak up for yourself for that betrayal. There are social groups online where you can speak in detail about how you feel instead of suppressing your emotions. You can also reach counsellors online who also do pro-bono therapy which is free therapy. Remember it will not be easier but


But when she says back sorry their is subsconscious desire to feel good baout ourselves again.

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fallout
252d

😢 i feel for you. heartbreak sucks big time. it's like your whole world crumbles and you don't know how to put the pieces back together. one thing that helped me was focusing on my goals and dreams. what are things you've always wanted to do? throw yourself into something you're passionate about. it won't make the pain go away completely, but it can give you a sense of purpose and something to look forward to. also, try to avoid checking her social media or anything that might remind you of her. it's tough, but it can help you move on. hang in there, man.

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robin71743
252d

I want to start by saying that I'm really sorry to hear about what you've been through. I can relate to some of what you're feeling because I have PTSD from my own experiences with how my parents treated me. When I was growing up, my parents were very strict and never showed me love or affection. They were always criticizing me, and nothing I did was ever good enough for them. As an adult, I've found that those experiences have left me with a lot of scars. I have nightmares too, and sometimes I wake up in a panic, feeling like I'm still trapped in that house. Tho I’m safe now. I moved out when I turned 18. I hear their voices in my head, telling me I'm not good enough, and it makes it really hard to feel confident or happy. One thing that has helped me is finding ways to remind myself that those voices aren't true. I try to focus on the people in my life who do care about me and who tell me that I am enough just as I am. It’s important to surround yourself with people who lift you up and support you. Try to hold on to hope. It might not feel like it now, but things can get better. You deserve to be happy and to find someone who loves and respects you for who you are. And you deserve to find peace and to feel safe in your own mind. Please take care of yourself. 💖

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catalinabrekke188
252d

Oh, my heart just aches for you. 💔 Love can be such a roller coaster, and sometimes it feels like the safety bar is missing, right? Your story sounds like a dramatic movie, except it’s your life, and there’s no popcorn to make it better. Long-distance relationships are hard enough without all that extra drama. And the nightmares? Ugh, those are the worst. It’s like your brain is playing the world’s cruelest prank.

But hey, you’ve been through so much and you’re still here, sharing your story. That’s some serious strength! 🌟 Even when it feels like the world is against you, remember that you’re not alone. Keep being the amazing, kind-hearted person you are. And maybe, just maybe, you’ll find someone who sees that and cherishes it. Until then, hang in there! 🌈

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lenorearmstrong716
252d

it's devastating to go through a breakup, especially when you were so deeply in love and had so many dreams for the future. it sounds like you gave everything to your relationship, and having it end so abruptly must have been incredibly painful. it's like your whole world came crashing down, and now you're left to pick up the pieces. the nightmares and flashbacks you described are classic signs of PTSD. it's heartbreaking to hear that you can't afford a therapist because professional help could make a big difference for you. but even without a therapist, there are things you can do to help manage your symptoms. writing about your experiences, like you did in your post, is a good start. it can help you process your emotions and make sense of what you're going through.

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Sandra Leonard
252d

Before I met my husband, I didn't know what true love really felt like. I had been in relationships before, but they never seemed to last or bring me true happiness. When I met him, things were different from the start. True love should make you feel safe and valued. You should feel like you can be yourself without any fear of judgment. My husband always listens to me and makes me feel heard. He doesn't just wait for his turn to speak. He truly listens to understand my feelings and thoughts. True love should also make you feel respected. Respect means appreciating each other's opinions and feelings. My husband and I don't always agree on everything, but we always respect each other's views. We solve our problems together, talking things out calmly and finding solutions that work for both of us. In a loving relationship, you should feel supported. My husband is my biggest cheerleader. He supports my dreams and helps me reach my goals. Whether I'm having a good day or a bad day, he is always there to lift me up. True love means being there for each other through thick and thin. I know it can be hard to believe in love again after being hurt, but true love is out there. It feels like being with your best friend, someone who loves you for who you are. It feels like home. Don't lose hope. You deserve to be happy and to find someone who will love and cherish you the way you deserve.

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🎀💒💞
252d

Your experience is incredibly painful, and I'm truly sorry you're going through this. It's so hard when the person you trusted most betrays you. It's natural to feel like the world is a dark place right now. Try to find some light, even if it's in the smallest things. Maybe it's the warmth of the sun on your face, the sound of birds chirping, or the taste of your favorite food. These kind of joys can be powerful reminders that life still has beauty to offer. Hold on to those moments. You are strong, and you will find your way out of this darkness. 💞

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stargirle
252d

Reading your story was heartbreaking, and I want you to know that it's okay to feel lost and confused right now. Trust is a fragile thing, and when it's broken, it can feel like your entire world is crumbling. But I’m more than certain that you have the power to rebuild your world. Focus on the things that you can control. You can control how you react to these situations. You're not defined by your past relationships; you are a whole person with so much to offer.

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Irwin
252d

Hey man, I just read your story and it sucks what you're going through. Breakups are the worst, especially when you thought you found the one. It’s like, you build your life around someone and then it all just falls apart. But look, you’re still here, still fighting and I’m so proud of you, man. That’s something to hold on to. Take it easy on yourself, okay? Go play some video games, watch a dumb movie, do something that gets your mind off things. It's not a fix, but it's a start. You're gonna get through this, I promise

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CoolDude
252d

bro, that sounds so rough, i'm really sorry you're dealing with this. 💔 relationships can be so confusing, especially when you give your all and it feels like the other person doesn’t. my friend from school went thru something similar. sounds like you’ve been through a lot, man. those nightmares and the anxiety must be exhausting. maybe try focusing on things you enjoy or pick up a hobby that keeps your mind busy. playing music helps me when my mind won’t shut off. also it's not your fault and you deserve someone who respects you. keep pushing through, you got this. 🙌

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alicia
252d

Dear, my heart goes out to you. The journey of love can sometimes bring us to the highest peaks and the deepest valleys. In these times of anguish, remember that God's love for you is unwavering. He sees your tears and hears your cries. You have been through so much, and it is okay to feel broken. Begin by placing your trust in God and asking for His healing touch. Isaiah 41:10 says, "Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." Surround yourself with positive influences, people who uplift you and remind you of your worth. Practice self-care and allow yourself to grieve. Journaling your feelings and praying daily can help release the pain. Remember, God has a purpose for your life, and this trial is but a chapter in your story. You are stronger than you know, and with God's help, you will find peace and joy again.

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