He CHEATED. End of story. I know it hurts, but you need to hear this: he doesn't deserve your thoughts, your tears, or your time. Block him on social media like, right now. Stop torturing yourself by looking at his pictures. You're worth so much more than this!
You need to get real with yourself. You're literally in another country living your best life, and you're still letting this guy live in your head rent-free? That's not it. Here's what you do: block him everywhere, block the girl, block any mutual friends who post about him, focus on YOU. Trust me, I've been there, and the only way out is through. And by through, I mean completely cutting off all access to information about him. You can do this!
Honey, I spent 5 years hung up on my ex who cheated. Want to know what finally helped? I met someone who actually deserved me
Stop looking backward - your future is ahead of you, not behind. Trust me, one day you'll wonder why you ever wasted tears on him. Keep focusing on your amazing career and the right person will come along when you least expect it ❤️ How do you feel, sweetheart?
@garciaantonio.10 omg i totally feel you!! i went through something similar but just for a year and i cant imagine doing that for 5ish whole years! holy you're literally so strong! i kept checking his social media every single day like a crazy person and crying myself to sleep. it was honestly the worst feeling ever. but now when i look back im like why did i even waste my time on someone who didnt care about me at all?
@garciaantonio.10 girlll stoppp because i literally did the exact same thing 😭 i had so many fake accounts and i would check them all every single hour of every single day and the worst part was seeing all these happy pictures of him with his new girl while i was just sitting in my room crying myself to sleep every single night like it was literally my full time job being sad about him
@garciaantonio.10 yesss literally this tho like i spent so many hours just zooming into every single picture trying to see if he looked happy or if he was faking it and i would analyze every single caption looking for hidden messages and then i would send screenshots to all my friends asking them what they thought and now when i think about it im just like girl you were literally going insane over someone who probably doesnt even remember your birthday anymore 🤦♀️
@Sierra O. OMG girl let me tell you about all the times I checked his social media its actually insane 😭 I would literally wake up in the middle of the night just to see if he posted anything new and then I made like 5 different fake accounts when he blocked my main one and I would spend hours just scrolling through everything and saving all his pictures and I cant believe I actually did all that like who even was I back then lol
@Sierra O. I FEEEL YOU SO MUCH!!
Now, when I look back at all of that I just cant stop laughing because imagine all the amazing things I couldve done with all that time and energy, like I could've literally learned how to cook, started a business or traveled the world, but instead I was there acting like a whole detective trying to figure out who liked his pictures and when he was posting and stalking literally everyone who ever talked to him and making whole conspiracy theories about his life 💀
There's a lot of unresolved energy. When we hold onto past connections, they create energetic cords that need to be severed with love and intention. The universe has already guided you to a different country, this is a clear sign that you're meant to walk a different path. The ring you saw is just a physical manifestation of your remaining attachment. Try this: light a white candle, make yourself comfortable, visualize yourself cutting all energetic ties with him. Breath out, breath in, let it all go. Everything happens for a reason, and this experience is part of your bigger story. Your heart needs healing, so I really recommend daily meditations. When you feel ready, the right soul will find you. Bless and release 🙏✨
Girl, block his ass and delete those mutual friends. You're too successful to be checking on him, period!
The ache you feel isn't just about him - it's about the dreams you had, the future you planned, the person you were when you were with him. But here's the magical thing: every heartbreak I've experienced has led me to something better. You're out there living your dreams, crossing borders, building a life. That's the real treasure. Your heart will heal, but don't rush it. Let it teach you what it needs to teach you. And remember, sometimes the longest relationships we have are with our memories - make peace with them, but don't let them stop you from creating new ones
@Lele I get what you're saying but it's really not that easy sometimes. I've been trying to move on from my ex for almost 3 years now and every little thing still reminds me of him. I still have days when I cry in my bed thinking about all the good times we had. I know I should focus on myself and my future, but my heart just doesn't want to listen
The worst part is when mutual friends post pictures with him or talk about him. It's like reopening an old wound every single time. I wish there was an easy button to just forget everything and start fresh. But life doesn't work that way, does it?
@Lele I actually tried something, I joined a cooking class. You're right, it feels good to do something that's just mine. But still, it seems like he's living rent-free in my head and I can't kick him out! I did try the muting thing on social media but then I get so curious and end up checking anyway
The worst part is when I dream about him, those dreams feel so real and then I wake up and have to deal with losing him all over again. I wonder if I'll ever feel that way about someone else. Like, will I ever trust anyone enough to let them in completely?
@Lele Thank you! I really want to hope for the better. I still have this fear that I'm wasting my best years being stuck on someone who didn't even care enough to be honest with me. I'm turning 25 next month and sometimes I feel like everyone around me is moving forward with their lives while I'm still trying to fix my broken heart. A lot of people just laugh when they find out I'm still hung up on this guy, so thank you for not being one of them. It really means a lot
@jwest2022.14 Have you tried doing something completely new? Something that has no memories attached to it? Also, do you thing that it's time to mute some of those mutual friends on social media? You don't have to unfriend them, just take a break from their updates. You're not stupid for feeling this way, you're human, and humans feel deeply
@jwest2022.14 You absolutely will find someone, who you'll trust with your whole heart. I am certain of that. You just need to focus on yourself. Start making memories that don't involve anything remotely close to him
You're young, successful, living abroad, and crushing it in your career. These are massive achievements! I remember feeling similar emotions when my relationship ended, but trust me, focusing on personal growth is the way forward
The ring thing? It's just an accessory now, nothing more. Those feelings will fade with time. The fact that you're in a different country is actually a blessing, it gives you space to grow and evolve independently
When my ex kept popping up on social media, I started learning Spanish and got really into rock climbing, both totally changed my life! Which part of your new life brings you the most joy right now?
@derrick YEP!! Success is truly the best revenge, and girl, you're absolutely killing it! It's perfectly normal to have those moments of vulnerability, even years later. Memories can sneak up on us when we least expect them. You're not just surviving, you're thriving! The universe has bigger plans for you. Keep shining and focusing on your growth
Social media can be quite the emotional rollercoaster. I think taking a break from it all helps clear the mind. Your success story is inspiring though dream job, new country, independent life. Those are the things worth focusing on!
Social media can be such a double-edged sword, especially when it comes to exes. I found myself in a similar spiral last month when my friend's wedding photos popped up, and guess who was in them? Life just loves playing these little tricks on me. The thing about social media is that it only shows these perfect little moments, but we never really know what's happening behind those carefully curated posts. It's completely normal to feel that ache, those feelings don't just disappear because time has passed. I've learned that blocking or muting can be really helpful, not because you're weak, but because you're protecting your peace
agggh, why didn't i discover this thread earlier, this weekend i felt lonely and i texted my ex. I am so dumbbb bro 😭😭😭😭 def saving this to prevent this from happening in the future. girl, we need to stop thinking about them...
Hi,
It is completely normal to feel hurt, heart ache and getting upset every time you see him with her. This is due to unresolved feelings, emotions, letting go and moving on. There are so many things running in your head which you were not able to express out to him and that would continue to hurt you as it is ruminating in your mind. Relationships generally makes us feel roller coaster of emotions which are ups and downs and teach us about ourselves, about how to love and be loved. These are part and process of life but breakups involve grieving process which you are going through right now. You need to first start with grief journalling. Write down:
* what do you feel, how do you feel everyday
*Write what you want to say to him which you were not able to
*In this activity i want you to think through and write what have you gained from this experience. start focusing on positives and write about it everyday than focusing on negatives and getting caught in the whirlpool of negatives. Consider this is an opportunity for you to grow and learn.
Start taking a break from social media for sometime till you have completely processed your feelings. remember it would take time to heal.
You also need to understand that there could be various reasons you would have not moved on . you need to ponder over that.
>> it could be you did not get closure then journalling works best or you can write a letter of what you want to say to him. pour your heart out and then tear of the letter or burn it.
>> Another reason could be you are just mourning over good times you have had with him, fantasies of how your future could have been with him. This thinking makes it difficult for you to move on. This thinking takes over your reality. so work on changing this. see there are positives and goodness in you which can make any new relationship beautiful. Look at the pain that person caused you. This will open you the reality of life than fantasizing. Instead of focusing on what we wish was still there change it to what actually is. This iwll help you to move on from the attachment of previous relationship.
Start writing down the thoughts of painful part in your relationship, what did not go well, what was not good about him. think what is important for you in a relationship like trust, understanding and what the ex could not bring to the table. This will help you in assessing the relationship in more practical way and moving on.