I am at the point where I can't take it in anymore. I have lost all I had financially. Am a mother of two. My partner is ever disrespecting me. Every slight misunderstanding he's threatening to throw me out of the house. He pushes me out of the door and first locks me out for sometime infornt of my kids. Sometimes he beats me up. He does all this because he knows I have no where else to go. My parents are separated and recently my mom was diagnosed with cancer. She also barely has what to eat and where to stay. I cry day and night for atleast God to help me and give me a way out but nothing is happening. Recently I was diagnosed with high blood pressure. Right now I am soo selfless and I need help.

I’m not choosing to struggle because of presumed hyper independence, I’m choosing to struggle because people will do things at their own pace which could inconvenience me. I’m not choosing to struggle because I think it’s a “flex”, I’m choosing to struggle because I hate people trying to throw things back in my face.

From the second I began making my own money and opened a saving’s account, I’ve done anything and everything I can to lessen the amount of help I have to ask if my birth giver because she’s a shitty person. While it’s become somewhat more tolerable thanks to therapy and support workshops, but sometimes I find myself briefly irritated when she tries to provoke a reaction out of me.

To the normal person with a healthy relationship with relatives, having a “loved one” offer you rides to work or to bring you food might sound sweet, but when your parent is an ableist, transphobic, racist, self-disparaging piece of shit, it’s different. People who pretend to care and extend aid only to throw it back in your face are the worst, and that’s the exact type of woman my conceiver is.

She screams and yells over trivial shit, purposefully provokes reactions out of me then gaslights me whenever I call her out. In the past when I was younger, most of altercations escalated to physical violence and my hospitalisations because she would beat me bloody and in retaliation I would attempt to kill her. But now as an adult with coping mechanisms, professional help and improving emotional regulation, I do my best to disregard her or practice self help tools in those moments.

I don’t want to struggle because I’ve struggled all my life, I want to find peace and stability. However living in an environment with one of your abusers and occasionally being forced to interact with their enablers, it’s exhausting. I want to go no contact at my earliest convenience so I can change all of my information and tell her as well as my other relatives to get fucked.

Hi, I think my problem is not unique but I haven’t found ways to cope with it. Any thoughts?

I’m allergic to many foods and have to be careful about what I eat. We figured that out years ago, so it’s not that bad overall. Over the last three years I didn’t have a single case of rash or any other food reaction. I was absolutely unprepared for what happened during my last two visits to the dentist. Minutes after the dentist gave me a shot (some common local anesthetics), my heartbeat hastened, I began hyperventilating. My left arm felt numb, I was so shocked but also couldn’t say much. I was afraid I’d stop breathing right there. I suppose my red face and breathing alarmed my dentist who called his assistant and they jumped around me, not knowing what to do. Then I asked to call the ambulance. I felt helpless. There were two medical professionals in front of me, and all they could do was give me a glass of water! The ambulance doctor said it was either an allergy to anesthetics or problems with blood vessels. Long story short, they gave me a pill and left. My dentist flatly refused to proceed with the procedure. But I have a problem with two of my teeth! I went to another dentist, and I had to tell him what had happenned. He immediately showed reluctance to help me. But we still tried. The minute I was about to be given a shot, I felt I was about to pass out and freaked out. We stopped, and I went home. This has never happenned to me before! I just couldn’t control myself. Now I don’t know what to do next… How am I to treat my dental problems when even thinking about it throws me into fits of anxiety?

Hi,

since I've seen post about ocd here… can someone tell me if ocd can become schizophrenia?

I rent a flat, and my neighbor is on pills from ocd and anxiety issues. On most days, like 90% of the time, she’s OK, I didn’t even suspect anything until she told me about her meds.. I looked it up, and it doesn’t sound like anything scary. We have separate rooms, and we don’t even communicate much, cause she has night shifts and I work during the day. What bothers me is that she’s often on energy drinks, and we had a couple weird situations. One time she came into my room in the evening and said in serious tones that something in her head was urging her to throw my plant out. She then went up to the window and tried to do it, until I stopped her. She claims that she doesn’t remember it but I suspect otherwise. Last weekend I was with friends, and my neighbor told them she could hear what they were thinking about her. My friends just laughed, but I was freaked out cause I know about her diagnosis.

Should I be worried? She hasn’t actually done anything bad (yet?). And, like I said, most of the time we’re fine. But I’ve read other stories, and am thinking of what might happen when I sleep.