I'm out of psychological prison

I've been an overeater for years. Impulsively eating sweets. No, not like that: grabbing all the food that was at home until my stomach started to hurt. Of course, I gained weight. My wife started making comments about me being fat. She generally made a lot of remarks to me every day: I often did, in her opinion, everything wrong. We fought a lot...I would get frustrated and go and eat , eat , eat. I started going to the gym. It didn't help, the weight went down a little and then came back up again. I wanted to find another wife...I looked at myself in the mirror and thought "who needs me fat". One day I approached a slim man at a training session and asked him how and what he would recommend. thanks to him, he listened to me carefully. And he said: "I couldn't lose weight until I left my wife, who was always scolding me". Leaving my wife!!! I dreamed of it. I wonder if this will help. Another month went by and my wife and I came to the conclusion that we should get a divorce. We drew up the necessary papers and I began to feel sobodny. For the time being, I stayed living with my wife while we resolved the property issue. My wife stopped yelling at me (I'm not her husband anymore) and our relationship became more even. And surprisingly, I stopped eating too much. I stopped craving sweets. My weight finally started to drop. I was delighted and surprised. And the wife started, anoborot eating a lot and gaining weight. I felt sorry for her, but I wanted to lose weight and my freedom helped me. I started reading about it on the internet, and I realized that I was in a "psychological prison". I will try not to get into it again. and my wife is in a psychological prison. I don't know whether to be happy or sad for her.