I am a student
I been having a very good relationship with one of my bestfriend
We knew everything about each other since we met
We texted for hours during initial days
And because of all these we left most of our friends and was seen with each other
I actually had a preference towards a secret relationship, to which she also agreed upon
But because of that our friends who was with us had many issues with us
They felt like we are avoiding us a put us in a guilt trip and especially my girlfriend
We fell into it and started acting differently
Little did other things started to happen
She was telling me how our common friend(a girl)was treating her
Since she was our friend I didn't wanted to assume and i asked her to talk
Which went on many time
Until one day she really disrespected my girlfriend a lot
And she told her other friends that my girlfriend did many bad things
And because of these none of others were talking to my girlfriend
Meanwhile she just had me to talk and whom she trusted most
I acted such a manner that I could solve all the problems between the 2 friends
Meanwhile when my gf needed me I wasn't able to be there for her because of my uncomfort of the secrecy which I wanted
And she suffered lots because of these
But now I regret how I was
I apologised her soo many time
But she's constantly angry with me
And is like talk talk talk
But idk what to talk
I talked to her soo many time regarding the issue
She sometime tell she need space
And when I give shes angry again
She tells she dont have anyone and shes depressed
Its been few month like this.
We contacted a couple's therapy
It didn't do anyn good
We don't want to seperate
We both love each other soo much
Neither do I want to leave her alone
What should I do😭
I am sorry to hear whatever you have gone through, but I am curious why did she treat you that way, did you guys not have good terms already?
Because I know certain parents treat their kids that way, which isn't right either but they have a reason, why does she treat you like that for no reason?
I understand what you are going through, but I suppose you really need to talk about this to her, because if she does it without any meaning then, it is definitely hurtful but it will be better if you care to talk this out, because ofcourse this behavior is hurtful, and no one wishes to be treated as such by their parents
Be very clear about your points, she's your mother you don't need to shy out fighting for being treated right
Hi. Did I understand correctly that you came to the funeral and didn't care what condition your mother was in with her husband's death. That maybe she was grief-stricken, withdrawn, unconcerned. Maybe she didn't even realize that this room would seem "undignified" to you because she thought you were coming to support her and you didn't care about the rest. I've just been to a funeral for a loved one, and I know that everything around you just becomes indifferent compared to this great grief. You're just selfish.
@madyson It's not my father's funeral. It was my mum's brother in law's mum's funeral. Quite far away. We are not even upset about this. My father passed three years ago.
My mum has been using my father's death to get treated like a queen as an excuse. Whenever my siblings or me take a decision , and if she doesn't agree with that decision she starts crying about my father.
@bubu It started 20 years back. Minor incidents but she acted in everyway to hurt me.
@Anupama95 Thanks for writing in detail, I can understand you better that way.... And support... I think if a mom uses manipulation like this, once it's ignored a few times, she'll have less desire to do so... Hang in there, and write!