I'm in a relationship that I want to get out of but can't.
We met on Facebook, today is seven months old in our relationship, we have gone on dates only once in seven months.
I used to talk to him to pass the time but now the relationship has become very serious.
The girl was married once and has a two-year-old son. Her husband has been fighting with her and has been abroad for one and a half years. I don't know how to fight with her husband, but the girl's character is not so good. She is a village girl. She is a burden in her father's house after getting married. , the father always abused the girl, by finding me she gets a chance to share her sorrows and she wants to marry me, but I never want to marry her, I can't leave her because her parents stay with family and they are not by her side, she Helpless, I can't marry him again because his character is not that good, I don't like his character at all, I always told him to leave, she was very hurt and tensed when she heard that.
Neighbors she knows work from Mumbai, contact them she left home two months ago today to go to Mumbai so that she can work there and stand on his own feet, on the way she met me in Kolkata and we spent a lot of time together at OYO
Then I was so emotional that I asked her to stay with me instead of going to Mumbai and made many requests but she refused.
But she went to Mumbai and told me that she made a big mistake by leaving me and she wants to be with me.
My family will never accept our relationship.
Then confusion came in my mind, I couldn't decide which one to choose, after day after day of thinking, now I came to a decision that I have to get out of this relationship.
But I have a lot of affection for him because of his helplessness, I can't leave her in any way,
She says she will commit suicide if I leave her
Today she is working as a Caretaker in Mumbai for two months, at this moment she has some liver disease in her abdomen, bleeding with stool, at that time she told me that if I don't marry her, she will not treat her disease and she will die like this without treatment.
What should I do now, what would someone say?
Far from marrying her, I don't want to have any relationship with her anymore.
But she has no one but me.
She and her parents and her family neglected her and she doesn't want to return home, now the only thing in her mouth is if she doesn't get me she will die without treatment from Mumbai.
For many pet is not just a dog it's like a beloved memory of your family . Bonnie would have got a lot of joy in your life and been a great companion. For many pet provides sense of purpose in one's life so i can understand when a cherished pet dies, it's normal to feel the grief and loss.
Grieving would take time :
There is no timetable for grieving. It may taken you months to feel better from the loss. it's important to be patient with yourself. There are few coping mechanisms which you can follow to help this process go smoothly.
1.Write about your feeling
When you express your feeling to someone or you write it down it reduces the pain. Try talking out to people who can understand what you are going through and be sympathetic towards you. If you are uncomfortable in talking then write in detail what you liked about Bonnie, how she added joy in your life, how she added structure to your life.
2.Have a closure
Have a ritual where you can express out goodbye to your beloved pet. Call people who can understand you to be part of this ritual. Express your gratitude for all she has given you. Share memories of your beloved pet. You can ask others also to speak out if they have shared some moments with bonnie.
3..Be part of pet loss support groups or any pet loss communities online
Person who has gone through the experience of loss of pet would understand your feelings. Try finding such groups online with like minded people. Talking to them would ease down your pain.
4.Create a tribute for Bonnie
You can Plant a tree in her name and bury few things in the soil. This way you can go visit that tree every time.
5.Create photo album or scrap book and pen down the memories attached to that photo. This will help you to revisit the memories and cherish the memories. It will help you to move on.
6..Donate his belongings to another companion animal or shelter.
These are few ways you can cope with this loss. Try creating happy memories about bonnie. She was an asset in your life. Remember her this way. Remember if she was alive she would have only made you happy and joyful so continue living the same way. Maintain a structured and normal routine.