I've been raised by a single mother, but managed to get my father's phone number from her phone when I was 20years old.
I got to know of him, but ended up shuttered, wishing that I never had met him but in the same time grateful that I came to see his true colours.
Here's the thing, it really destroys me when my family(mom's siblings) tell me off him. And it's the worst feeling to come to the terms that all they had and have said is actually true.
So, here it goes; after reaching out to him I came to know that he is a reverend and so as not to disrupt his "reverend - obligations", he kept me a secret. He literally would tell my to hide in the back seat so that his church members would not see me.
I also attended one of his ordinations where he made a declaration that he only had one family and that he does not drink, yet many a times when I entered his car and he smelt of alcohol. Once he even offered to buy me alcohol and he even took me to a club.
This has really affected my trust on people who lead in church.
I feel unwanted, unloved, a mistake; since I was born out of one of his affairs while he was still married to his wife, whilst being a church leader.
Ooh and despite not having a job, he borrows me money to add the icing on the cake.
Hi! My support! Yes, you've had a difficult life experience! Well you know the truth, whatever it may be...perhaps it is a life truth, as there are no people without flaws. That will give you wisdom in life.
Yes, you have a difficult information to think about...but, as they say, God sends us those trials with which we will definitely cope.... and you will cope...think how to use the situation in your favor.
@raynor hello, thanks for your response.
But, what favour is there?
@adelayost Thanks for your response.
Yes I understand, everyone has their flaws, but why hide me though?
Why corn me for money knowing fully well that I'm not working, and the taking me on a guilt-ride on how he loves me and that I should understand his situation
@Cindy There is good and bad in every situation...you've thought of the bad, now you have to think of the good
@Cindy Why do you give money? Priests are used to accepting money for nothing...don't give it...and as for hiding it, you know why it's hidden - you can't make it public.
Buddy! You can only accept the situation as it is-you were already born of such a father, and maybe your father has positive qualities that you don't see.
I read your story and comments.... It's been really hard for you, hang in there.... But really, start looking for the positive in your life, isn't it there?
@trantow it is there. Thanks.
I'm gonna let you in on a secret-- a lot of teenagers find out their parents aren't perfect and break the rules. So what? You have to turn your back on them? Are there perfect parents? Are there perfect people? Do you feel sorry for yourself because your parents aren't perfect? Think about it.