last time my friend came to me after some days of no news just to ask for a service with the usual fake small talk. for little context this friend often comes to ask favors and even tho i make it clear i'm not the most available she will try to squeeze in it, (i can be at work, it can be 1am, it can be to ask stuff i'm not into doing anymore etc) and i ALWAYS been here for her. once she was even mad at me while i realized all her demands?? when she is the one that didn't respect her own deal! like she made me sacrify my project to give her time. and the favors are not urgencies: it's clothes.
so last time she said she had an idea about a futur outfit and wanted to call me. for the first time i put boundaries, i didn't stop my family activity to adapt to her, i said politely hey i'm sorry i can't reply for now. she then asked if she could send msgs, it looked again a bit like her trying to get my attention in another way even tho i said no. after some minutes bc as i said i was busy, i said she could but i will not reply now but later, making everything clear.
i then took time to reply to every msg she sent as i promised, analyzing, encouraging her ideas. since then i have absolutely no news. i'm chill but since a past experience i wonder if she is mad at me? the thing is we are adults, if you have something to say: talk, and moreover what would she be mad at me for, so i'm not doing the first move anymore when it's someone else responsibility as others tried to guilt trip me into.
i just know she sent me memes on other platforms, i replied to them too except for the one where it's written HIATUS in big, so there it's not my job to reply on smth i warned i wouldn't be there either. i wait for her to reply i don't wanna send a new one, not in a revenge way but i just wait maybe she doesn't want to be bothered either! i'm not mad or else i just wanna show i stand on my ground and i'm not the doormat people used to know!
