I can see why you'd feel so overwhelmed. It's tough when you're trying to be respectful, but your boundaries are still being crossed. Have you considered setting some non-negotiable boundaries with your parents? For example, you could tell them that certain topics are off-limits or that you'll only discuss these issues at designated times. Having clear boundaries can help reduce the pressure and give you some breathing room. It's also important to practice self-compassion and remind yourself that it's okay to feel the way you do. Take care of yourself and stay strong.
@ihartmann487 each time I have tired to have a talk with them telling them that there are things they should stop doing that tiggers things but they are unwilling so it's keeps on going on a circle.
If you've already tried talking to your parents about their behavior and they are reluctant to change, you may need to find other ways to cope with the situation. One option is to set clear boundaries and stick to them. For example, if they are trying to pressure you into doing something that you don't want to do, remind them of your boundaries and stick to your decision, even if it causes conflict. If necessary, you might need to limit the amount of time you spend with them or create some distance if the situation is too stressful.
I can see how much this is affecting you. It's really tough when you feel like you're not being heard, especially by those closest to you. When emotions run high, it's natural for things to get intense. Try to remind yourself that it's okay to have strong feelings and that you're not alone in this. Sometimes, just acknowledging that you're overwhelmed can be a step toward finding some peace. Take care of yourself and know that it's alright to seek a break when you need it.
I understand how difficult it must be for you. When the people we love keep pushing us, it can feel like we're drowning in their expectations. It's okay to feel overwhelmed and to express those emotions. The most important thing is to acknowledge how you're feeling and give yourself permission to feel those emotions without judgment. Take some time to reflect and find small ways to bring some calm into your life. You're stronger than you think, and this too shall pass.
It can be frustrating and exhausting when people around you refuse to listen or change their behaviors, especially when it triggers negative feelings or situations. It's important to remember that you cannot control how others behave, but you can control how you react to them. Perhaps you can focus on setting boundaries with them and communicating your needs more effectively. If they still refuse to listen or make an effort to change, it might be worth considering distancing yourself from them to protect your own well-being.
Tensions and anger are very normative in parent-child relationship. Even though we sense after the explosion that we were unfairly disrespectful and even after we regret we can't stop . But your anger is justifiable in response to repeatedly explaining to them. As you age you do find it frustrating when your parents ask you to do things. Their authority may frustrate you.
I understand you feel frustrated, annoyed of being asked to do something which is against your desire but did you ever think why do you feel that frustrated, what triggers your frustration, did they ask you something unreasonable?
Once you identify what triggers you then write down what all they ask you to do and now write down why you don't want to do? what will happen if you do it? now think from parents perspective why they want you to do it?. Analyse and decide what you can and cannot do. then try talking to your parent about it. Have your tried rational explanation of why you don't want to do it so that they are aware of reason instead of just assuming that you are lazy or not interested to do it. They may think as parents it is important for their child to do it and they are not aware of it.
Certain times it is required you talk to another person who is an adult and tell him what annoys you. They will be able to give you unbaised information for each trigger you have.
You can also come up with alternatives for the task they are asking you to do or certain compromises like i will not be able to do 2 hours of study so can i do 1 hour etc.