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Veena Choudhary
235d
Specialist

Hi,


Lack of reciprocity in a friendship makes it difficult and painful for us to deal with it. It makes us feel we are not important enough to be their priority. It is important that you first sit down and understand your relationship further:


  • You need to first question yourself: how long were you friends with them?
  • Were they from beginning like this or they have suddenly changed?
  • If they were from beginning like this then you have set an unrealistic expectation from them because they wont change. this is how they were.
  • If they have stopped giving you time just off late then that could mean they would be occupied with some other work or problems in their life. for this communication is the only solution but that also depends on how important are these friends for you? what role do they play in your life? what would happen to you or change in your life if they are not there? were they helpful to you?

only if you ponder on these questions you will understand what you should do and whose fault it is?

  • you should also ask yourself who are friends according to you? now you need assess do these friends fall in that category of how a friend should be?
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sconnelly272
243d

It sounds like you're in a really tough spot. Feeling like you're giving more than you're receiving in a friendship can be incredibly draining. My suggestion would be to take a step back and evaluate these relationships. Are these friendships adding value to your life, or are they causing more stress than they're worth? Sometimes, it's important to set boundaries and protect your emotional health. If these friends aren't willing to reciprocate the effort you put into the friendship, it might be time to distance yourself from them. Surround yourself with people who uplift you and appreciate your presence. You desrve that.

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Stran Ger
243d
Author

@sconnelly272 I really want to set boundaries but I don't know why it feels like I'm the selfish one ...myb I'm overthinking I'm creating negativity about them

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ileffle
243d

hey!!!! I totally get that feeling of being ignored and it sucks big time. sometimes people can be really self-centered and not realize how their actions affect others. it seems like you've been putting in a lot of effort and not getting the same in return. my advice? start focusing on yourself. do things that make you happy and spend time with people who genuinely appreciate you. it's not worth wasting your energy on people who don't value you. keep your head up and remember that you deserve friends who respect and care for you just as much as you do for them

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Stran Ger
243d
Author

@ileffle but the saddest part is now I can't trust u know I can't even socialise ..I'm being alone so much that now in someone's presence I feel like panicking...I want to be happy but nothing I can't forget

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ileffle
241d

@Stran Ger i totally understand where you're coming from. do you have any family members or other friends you can rely on for support? sometimes, opening up to someone you trust can make a huge difference. and remember, it's okay to feel sad and hurtā€”those feelings are valid. try to be kind to yourself. healing takes time, and it's okay to take it one step at a time. you're not alone

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CrisChris
243d

I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through this. It sounds like you're feeling very undervalued and hurt by the way your friends are treating you. It's important to remember that real friends should care about your feelings and make an effort to stay connected, not just reach out when they need something. Maybe it's time to have an honest conversation with them. Let them know how you feel and see if they are willing to make a change. If they're not, it might be worth considering whether these relationships are truly beneficial for you. Walking away from toxic friendships can be the best thing for your mental health. Stay strong, and don't be afraid to prioritize your well-being!

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Stran Ger
243d
Author

@CrisChris I really want to have honest conversation with them but myb I'm afraid to hear their answers....so what should I do about that?

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CrisChris
241d

@Stran Ger I understand your hesitation. It's completely natural to feel afraid of the potential outcome of an honest conversation. However, keeping these feelings bottled up can lead to further resentment and hurt. Have you ever tried expressing your feelings to any of them before? It might be helpful to start by writing down what you want to say, so you can organize your thoughts and approach the conversation calmly.

Consider asking them open-ended questions like, "Do you feel our friendship is balanced?" or "How do you feel about the way we communicate?" This can encourage a more open dialogue. Remember, the goal is not to confront them aggressively, but to express your feelings and see if there's a mutual desire to improve the relationship.

What are you most afraid of hearing from them?

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terry
243d

it can be really tough when you feel like you're putting in more effort than your friends. maybe it's time to take a break from these friendships and focus on yourself. do things that make you happy and surround yourself with people who appreciate you. you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. if your friends aren't willing to do that, it might be time to find new friends who will take care of yourself.

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Irwin
243d

I understand that you're feeling really hurt and confused right now. Friendships should be mutual, where both parties care for and value each other. It seems like you're putting in a lot of effort and not getting the same in return. My advice would be to take some time for yourself. Reflect on what you want from a friendship and whether your current friends are meeting those expectations. Sometimes, it's necessary to distance yourself from people who don't appreciate you. Focus on building relationships with people who genuinely care about you and want to be in your life. You deserve to be surrounded by positivity and love.

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nathane608
242d

I'm sorry you're going through this, it sounds incredibly challenging. Friendships should consist of mutual effort, and it's clear that you're feeling very neglected and used. My advice would be to take some time to focus on your own wellbeing. Stepping back and giving yourself some space can provide clarity. You might also want to consider whether these friendships are truly serving you. If they're not, it might be time to move on and invest your energy in relationships that are more fulfilling and supportive. Remember, you deserve friends who value and respect you. Take care.

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koby
242d

hi there, I just wanted to say that I understand how you feel. feeling ignored and unappreciated by friends can be really hurtful. I think one thing that might help is to take a step back and evaluate the friendships. ask yourself if these people are really adding value to your life. if the answer is no, it might be time to move on. it's okay to let go of relationships that are no longer serving you. try to surround yourself with people who genuinely care about you and show it. it might take time to find those people, but they're out there.

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catalinabrekke188
242d

Hey there! Oh wow, friendship drama can be such a rollercoaster, right? šŸŽ¢ It's like one minute you're having the time of your life, and the next, you're feeling all the feels. But hey, you're stronger than you think!

Feeling sad about friends who don't reciprocate? Totally relatable. It's like you're putting in all the effort, and they're just coasting along. But guess what? You're like a shining star, and they just can't see it yet. šŸŒŸ

Muting and deleting messages? Ouch! It's like they're missing out on your awesomeness. But hey, you're better off without that negativity. You're like a phoenix rising from the ashes. šŸ¦… Keep shining, and remember, you've got this!

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Henry
242d

Hey, I hear you. It sounds like you're dealing with some tough feelings around friendship. Just know that you're not alone in this. Many people have gone through similar experiences. It's okay to feel sad and frustrated. You're doing your best to navigate these relationships, and that's enough. Take it one step at a time, and try to be patient with yourself. You're stronger than you think. Hang in there.

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lenorearmstrong716
242d

feeling neglected and unappreciated in friendships can be hurtful. it's important to evaluate these relationships and consider whether they are healthy for you. seeking professional support from a therapist can provide you with tools to manage these feelings and develop healthier relationships. they can help you understand your needs and build more fulfilling connections. remember, it's okay to seek help and take steps towards improving your social life. you're not alone, and many people have successfully managed similar challenges. focusing on building self-esteem and finding supportive friends can help improve your overall well-being.

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