my friend thinks she isn't selfish but lol, many times she displayed egocentered behaviors.
i remember last time we studied the flaws linked to her mbti and she denied everything even tho i had examples for it. she also think she can't be self centered because she is an introvert, guess what this has nothing to do with it. she doesn't like what's "extra", out of her comfort zone but when she can one up her close friends she will do it just to brag, i even caught her sometimes she kinda lie about her skills.
i notice that when we talk the convo revolves more around her and it's not because i don't try to open up. it's when i do i end up ignored, and it's not an accident because if in the same sentence i talk about her she will only focus on this part. for example last time i said i was sick i had absolutely no replies, but then it was her turn not long after and she ranted about every symptoms, i'm like this is kinda hypocrite, i feel like i can't be negative while she has the right to talk in circle about it.
i try to mimic her energy, when she talks about herself i do like most people do now, i also talk about my experience, but yet i still end ignored. like she was talking about what she watches nowadays, i asked about it and then talked about mine, she totally erased the part that was not about her person.
also when i say i like something she always has the need to say she doesn't like it by insisting a lot. she criticize her sister for doing so but you are the copy paste girl...
now it reminds me that day when i won something amazing and everyone was complimenting me, she always call me "wow i'm so proud of you my BESTFRIEND" in these moments, and not even seconds after she said "oh it's raining" she was purposely trying to shift the convo to her even tho she has absolutely nothing to say!!
i would never get people being so selfish with someone that is willing to listen to them genuinely.
i know we always say communication are key, a person can't "guess" what she does wrong without telling her, well lmao i'll tell you. after YEARS of being the bigger person, initiating the convo, raising the issue, and being flexible i understood something: people just show you who they are, i shouldn't teach a person not to treat others like garbage, they know at this point and i saw they won't and i can't change them so i just distance myself now.
