boyfriend issues

Just had an argument with my boyfriend of 10 years. He still wants to move to North Carolina and have us live there even though I don’t want to live 10 hours away from my family while he’d be living near his family. It just isn’t fair. He keeps saying “oh I’ll take you back to your family for the holidays and on weekends” but how can you do that all the time?  I keep saying we should live up equal distance between both of our families, but he keeps saying no when he says that I’m being selfish and throwing away everything we’ve had together for 10 years. I’m not trying to be selfish. I’m trying to find the right situation for the both of us. He says we can’t figure anything out then we have to break up. He says that I’m breaking his heart. I feel like a monster right now and I’m not trying to be. I’m just trying to find the best solution for both of us.