boyfriend problems

Well, I feel ripped growing between me and my boyfriend of 10 years. He wants to move to North Carolina with his parents because they’re moving there to be closer to his sister who lives there, but I don’t know if I want to live there because I’ll be really far away from my family, and I don’t want that. I want us to find a place that’s an equal distance between both of our families but every time I give him an idea, he seems to shoot it down. He never seems to wanna listen to how I’m feeling. I love him and I know that he loves me and he would never hurt me but lately I feel like he has been getting way too stubborn , going on and on about money and stuff but he never looks at any place with me . I told him that I want to live on my own for a bit first since I live with my parents right now that way I can get an idea of what it’s like to live on my own, but he doesn’t think I can do it because of my emotional state since I have a lot of mental health issues But I know I can do it. I wish I could find a way to get him to listen but I don’t know how. My mom and dad keeps saying that I need to put my foot down and tell him what my plan is. Which is to find a better job that will allow me to work from home and get my own place to see what it’s like and if I want to live in North Carolina or not, but the thing is we’ve been living long distance since he lives in Pennsylvania and I live in New Jersey for the past 10 years and I don’t know what else to do. I feel like I’m at such a loss