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I agree with your parents. You should live on your own for a while, figure life out :)
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OMG, I CAN SOOO RELATE! I EXPERIENCED ALMOST AN IDENTICAL THING WITH MY HUSBAND! We were torn between moving closer to his family in Texas or staying in California near my folks. It's such a difficult decision to make, especially when you are deeply in love with someone, yet you also have to take into consideration your own personal happiness. The discussions we had seemed to go on forever. Even thinking about it now, I'm surprised we made it through all of this. One day, I decided to take control of the situation. We couldn't just keep arguing and still make ZERO progress. So, I sat him down, looked him straight in the eyes, and poured my heart out. I told him about how tired I was from the constant arguing and indecisiveness. Then, I asked him to make a decision. Not just for his sake or mine, but for the sake of us and our relationship. It was a tough conversation, but it needed to be done. In the end, after a lot of back and forth, we decided to stay in California. As it turned out, it was a decision that worked best for both of us.
Now, his family comes to visit us quite often, and we've managed to create a nice balance. We've even started some new traditions with both our families. It just goes to show that it's really all about finding that balance. It's about understanding, compromise, and, most importantly, communication.
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rrenner718
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@star It's refreshing to see how you handled this. I failed to do this with my ex. I’m just too stubborn ig..
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@rrenner718 What’s stopping you from reconnecting with them? Patience is the key.
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rrenner718
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@star Oh no, that ship sailed away looong ago, but I’m not much worried about that one tbh haha
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sarahchristiansen663
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I couldn't be in a relationship like that for too long. For me, the most important thing is the freedom of choice my partner gives me. That way I know I belong to myself and not to some other person. I've always been scared of being dependent on somebody. I'd rather be single than with someone who doesn't respect my boundaries and isn't willing to compromise.
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tledner139
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@sarahchristiansen663 My thoughts exactly, if they cannot support you and give you the right to choose, they are not the right person to build a future life with.
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megan kohler
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@sarahchristiansen663 my bf is not a bad person I think he is just learning how to compromise. He’s never had a romantic relationship before me. I think we are both scared
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megan kohler
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@tledner139 I see what you mean but I know he does love me and he’s just as scared as I am. He has never had a girlfriend before me and I think he is just learning how to compromise
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sarahchristiansen663
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@megan kohler I get it. You're just two young folks trying to figure life out. If you are both willing to understand each other and change for one another, then why not? Perhaps my point of view is not quite conventional in the traditional sense, because I have always been a loner throughout my life. The key is to know that there is a way out of every situation. Sometimes life can turn out in ways you never dreamed of.
I agree with your parents. You should live on your own for a while, figure life out :)
OMG, I CAN SOOO RELATE! I EXPERIENCED ALMOST AN IDENTICAL THING WITH MY HUSBAND! We were torn between moving closer to his family in Texas or staying in California near my folks. It's such a difficult decision to make, especially when you are deeply in love with someone, yet you also have to take into consideration your own personal happiness. The discussions we had seemed to go on forever. Even thinking about it now, I'm surprised we made it through all of this. One day, I decided to take control of the situation. We couldn't just keep arguing and still make ZERO progress. So, I sat him down, looked him straight in the eyes, and poured my heart out. I told him about how tired I was from the constant arguing and indecisiveness. Then, I asked him to make a decision. Not just for his sake or mine, but for the sake of us and our relationship. It was a tough conversation, but it needed to be done. In the end, after a lot of back and forth, we decided to stay in California. As it turned out, it was a decision that worked best for both of us.
Now, his family comes to visit us quite often, and we've managed to create a nice balance. We've even started some new traditions with both our families. It just goes to show that it's really all about finding that balance. It's about understanding, compromise, and, most importantly, communication.
@star It's refreshing to see how you handled this. I failed to do this with my ex. I’m just too stubborn ig..
@rrenner718 What’s stopping you from reconnecting with them? Patience is the key.
@star Oh no, that ship sailed away looong ago, but I’m not much worried about that one tbh haha
I couldn't be in a relationship like that for too long. For me, the most important thing is the freedom of choice my partner gives me. That way I know I belong to myself and not to some other person. I've always been scared of being dependent on somebody. I'd rather be single than with someone who doesn't respect my boundaries and isn't willing to compromise.
@sarahchristiansen663 My thoughts exactly, if they cannot support you and give you the right to choose, they are not the right person to build a future life with.
@sarahchristiansen663 my bf is not a bad person I think he is just learning how to compromise. He’s never had a romantic relationship before me. I think we are both scared
@tledner139 I see what you mean but I know he does love me and he’s just as scared as I am. He has never had a girlfriend before me and I think he is just learning how to compromise
@megan kohler I get it. You're just two young folks trying to figure life out. If you are both willing to understand each other and change for one another, then why not? Perhaps my point of view is not quite conventional in the traditional sense, because I have always been a loner throughout my life. The key is to know that there is a way out of every situation. Sometimes life can turn out in ways you never dreamed of.