boyfriend of 11 years is feeling unsure about us.

My boyfriend says he is feeling unsure about our relationship and I didn’t know what to say because 1. I’ve been feeling somewhat similar and 2 we were both on the phone. He just doesn’t see how we can survive if we can’t move in together in North Carolina But I have absolutely no intention of moving there. I can’t live 10 hours away from my family. I’d be fine with living at least an hour and a half away from my family but 10 is way too much to ask. When I told him this, he said he can’t do that either live 10 hours away from his family. He said it would be us throwing 11 years down the toilet, but I don’t know what to say. I don’t wanna hurt anyone. I just don’t know what to do I cannot live that far from my family. I’ve tried to have us compromise, but he doesn’t seem to want to. He even told me not to say anything to our friends because he didn’t wanna get involved in it. I’m afraid to talk to anyone because I’m afraid that they’ll say that I’m being unreasonable. I just don’t know what to do. I know that for the longest time I’ve craved the freedom to live my own life, but I don’t wanna hurt anyone doing it.