Hi, i'm j. Maybe i'm crazy, I do not know what im doing here, i can not afford psychologist, so I searched for free therapy and here I am. I'm tired, first of all I'm gay, living in lebanon, my parents are so religious, I believe that being gay is haram in our religion, so there is always this feeling that I'm making a sin, that I am getting away from God, I'm losing my personality, I dated a guy who drinks alcohol a lot, so I started drinking, and that is haram too, I can not stop it, i like guys, and i love god, and those two can not be together and I can not get rid of any of them. 2nd of all, i feel like there is something living inside me for example i say" i'm thirsty" then i say me too, i say "i'm hungry" then i say yes lets eat im hungry too, i always feel like there is someone watch me, i go to the mirror fix my hair, and act normal as if someone is watching me, i am scared, i am tired, i feel like the thing inside me wants me to fail University, i try to study but he wants to use the phone, i got angry, my heart hurts me to stop using the phone and i can not, wtf is this. And my biggest problem is that i am poor, I am literally poor, I have a very small car, it always stops working and I call for someone to pick me up, i am 23, i am selling all my stuff because my father is the worst person, he always tell me, u didn't help me picking the olives ( he is a farmer) so why are u eating from them, while i am eating, i always sleep hungry, u will say i am 23 why i am not working, that is because i always have heart pain when i work, i can not get out of the house, whenever i got out, i feel a weird feeling, i am studying now a full stack course, i hope this works, i am tired. I do not know if someone will read this, my english is bad
Hello!
Every girl likes male attention. But sometimes a fan becomes too obsessive. Your relationship becomes the only interest in his life. If so, most likely you are faced with a psychologically dependent person.
He will be constantly jealous, trying to control, demanding more and more attention to himself. Therefore, if you see signs of an obsessive relationship, it is worth stopping all contact with this person as soon as possible. Here are some recommendations on how to do this.
1) It is important to be decisive, adamant and not change your behavior. Calmly talk (preferably online) to the man and say that you don’t feel anything for him and don’t plan to start a relationship with him. Be restrained in emotions, maintain a decisive but friendly tone. Don’t let the situation turn into a scandal.
2) If the conversation didn’t have the desired effect and the man continues his attempts to communicate, follow the following rules:
ignore - block him on social networks, add him to the blacklist, don’t answer calls, and when you meet somewhere in person, don’t talk to him;
don’t accept gifts, otherwise it will be regarded by him as consent to the relationship;
don’t show emotions - both positive and negative ones. The emotional response sustains the feelings between people. Communicate as if you are bored and it doesn’t get to you;
don’t react to his manipulations - obsessive fans like begging for sympathy, they say they are sick, need help or they are very lonely. You can’t give in to it. The man may threaten to harm himself because he cannot live without you. In this case, talk to his friends or relatives, but don’t give in to provocations, this will only worsen the situation.
Remember that only your own perseverance and determination will help you get rid of an obsessive man.