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erohan
1y ago

constant interrogations and revelations

I want to share my state of powerlessness...despondency, and confusion, which has been weighing on me. I don't know what to do at all, and from the fatigue of the situation I am lethargic, I feel like I am in a fog.

I don't work much, but I am very tired of the family situation...I have three children living with me, my mom, my husband. My husband and I have known each other since childhood, he is a wonderful man. I think he's kind, but he has another half: the dark half. Sometimes he starts talking nonsense. He starts telling me that he's seen me in certain situations, but I know for a fact that I wasn't in those situations.

For example, he tells me how I betrayed him and was there for his friend, him and something else I stole. I argue to the point of hoarseness that I was somewhere else that day, but it doesn't help. If I don't talk to him, he follows me around and interrogates me. He wants confessions and revelations. But this is not one such story, there are many. Which were, but probably only in his imagination. This situation is making me sick. And my inner state affects my outer life. It's important for me to be in charge of my own life. It was like he smoked cannabis and I appeared to him in hallucinations. Then he'll blame me for what I did in his hallucination. Because he often doesn't separate his hallucinations and real life. When he argues with me, he gets aggressive. How can I prove the truth to him? I've argued a lot, but it doesn't work. Our fighting is bad for the kids, and my mother. They are dumbfounded by the text of the accusations against me.

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Veena Choudhary
1y
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Hallucinations and Delusions are strongly held thoughts or beliefs that aren't based on aby evidence, This can be one of the difficult experiences to come to terms with for closed one like in your case.


Here are some tips to help you :


  • It is important that you go to therapist for medical advice for your spouse. This can be treated and it should improve with right treatment and medications.


  • If hallucination or delusions are severe, telling the person experiencing them that these are not real wont help. it would only lead to conflict and it will be ineffective. You should try distracting him from it instead of engaging or join with their hallucination.


  • Anxiety may make hallucinations worse so find ways to help the person relax. Talk to them calmly or take them to place quiet


  • Consider having a pre-agreed code to use to help your spouse re orientate and bring them back to present. Example objects like wedding ring or necklace.


  • Do yoga, meditation along with your spouse everyday.


Understand that hallucinations are some times reflections of real fears and traumas. After treatment person realises it wasn't real and this will help them recover. Managing hallucinations or delusions and giving support can be tiring for you as well so do get support for yourself from those around you. take a break and go just have some time for yourself. Always recharge your batteries if not it will become difficult for you.

raynor
1y

Don't get discouraged!!! Obviously your husband needs a doctor, and you have the patience not to argue with delusions

gunnar
1y

Poor thing! You're in agony! Think about it, do you and your children want to live with this man? It's very serious

schaefer
1y

Poor woman! How much you've endured and how much more you have to endure!!!! Be strong, with people like your husband, it's not going to be easy... He needs to be treated for his drug addiction.

genesis
1y

I want to give you relief with my support! You can do it! You can get your husband out of his addiction! You do realize that his hallucinations need treatment! His blaming you is his disease.

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howell
1y

My best wishes!!! Don't argue with your husband and it will get easier already. Especially since arguing is futile.... As long as your husband is using drugs, there will be no harmony in the relationship.

clevebarr
1y

Your energy and determination make me admire you.Surround yourself with positive people. The influence of others plays a huge role in our lives. Try to be surrounded by people who believe in you and support your efforts. Avoid negative and toxic relationships, they can undermine your self-esteem

lesch
1y

Hi! you do realize he is delusional right? don't argue with him, you can't prove anything...Train your mind to be stronger than your emotions...better treat your husband.....

darronkula
1y

Always remember that your current situation is not the end point. The best is yet to come...it will give you strength!!!strength to fight the situation....

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zpacocha
1y

You don't need to worry about your husband's delusions...he is obviously suffering from the effects of drug use...he needs to help and not accept his words as truth...We all face hardships and setbacks, but it is these trials that make us stronger.

eraynorа
1y

Whatever happens, don't be discouraged! Realize that your husband's accusations are delusional, and don't take it personally - he's sick. Focus on healing him.

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Sorry for dumping this on you, kind strangers

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