Life feels so hard for me. I can't find peace anytime. I’m not attending classes properly, always running here and there to avoid people due to social anxiety. I haven't made any friends, and those who want to be friends with me, I don’t like them. At home, arguments happen every 3 to 4 days between my parents over small things.
My sister and I have no one except our parents. Our relatives are toxic; they always comment on us because our parents don’t have a son. I’m sure my parents also think about it, even if they don’t show it. All our relatives believe that having a son is like having a treasure for the future because he will take care of his parents when they get old, while daughters move on after marriage.
It makes me feel bad for my parents because all their relatives have sons, but they don’t. I can see that my father has to handle a lot—managing his business, looking after my mother, my sister, and me. Yet, we haven’t made them happy even once. We haven’t achieved anything in life. My sister and I are just average in studies. She is also shy and doesn’t talk much.
We don’t talk openly to our father because we are shy. I have social anxiety.
I feel like a burden to them. I wish the Almighty had made me a boy.
My grandmother is extremely toxic. She always speaks badly about me, my sister, my mom, and even sometimes about her own son. She doesn’t like us. She loves her grandsons more than herself, spending thousands of rupees on them. We don’t want her money, but my uncles are stealing my father’s hard-earned money. They have more sources of income than us, yet it’s still not enough for them. My grandmother wants my father’s business to go to her grandsons.
We haven’t even been able to build a comfortable home for ourselves, while all our relatives have their own comfortable houses and bungalows.
Sometimes, I wish I was never born or that I had been a boy.
I used to think that one day, I would get so educated that all my relatives would be silenced. But now, I have lost all my focus on studies.
Everyone else seems so happy in their lives, so why can’t we? We are all under so much stress.
Look at nature, every flower blooms in its own time. Some take longer, some shorter, but each one is equally beautiful. The pressure to conform to society's expectations is temporary, but your identity is permanent. Your presence in this world matters more than you know. This moment will pass, and new opportunities will arise. The sun always rises, even after the darkest night. The path less traveled leads to the most beautiful destinations. Your story is still being written, and it's going to be magnificent. Remember that even diamonds need pressure to form. What activities make you feel most like yourself?
@Rocky I agree with you, friend. Each person's path in life is unique and meaningful. Standing tall against societal pressure takes immense strength. Life has this beautiful way of unfolding exactly as it should. The key lies in accepting yourself fully and nurturing your own growth
Life has taught me that growth happens in unexpected ways.
We need both challenges and joy to flourish. Your true strength lies in being authentically yourself.
Focus on nurturing your own garden rather than comparing it to others. The most beautiful gardens take time to bloom. Our differences make the world more interesting!!!
@solo sorry I'm not the op but how did you get there? It's my dream to just accept life the way it is, but this is so damn hard to do...
@solo That's beautiful, but I struggle with even noticing those small things. My mind is always racing with worries about the future, about what others think, about everything that could go wrong. How do you quiet that constant noise? I feel like I'm the only one who can't figure this out.
@solo I had been trying to do mindfulness exercises, ended up making grocery lists in my head instead. But seriously, how do you deal with the constant pressure to have everything figured out? Everyone around me seems to be moving forward while I'm stuck in the same place.
@William Bennett Hey William!
You know, it wasn't an overnight thingy. I spent years fighting against myself, trying to be someone I wasn't.
I remember sitting in my tiny apartment, surrounded by self-help books, feeling completely lost. Life kept throwing curveballs, lost jobs, failed relationships, family drama.
But something interesting happened during those dark times. I started noticing small things, like how the morning sunlight hit my coffee cup, or how the neighbor's cat would visit my windowsill every day. These tiny moments began to matter more than the big stuff I was stressing about.
@William Bennett Oh trust me, you're definitely not alone in that!
I still have days when my mind feels like a tornado of thoughts.
Just yesterday, I was overthinking about a simple email I sent at work.
The noise doesn't really go away completely - we just learn to dance with it differently.
Life's messy, and that's actually what makes it interesting. I've collected quite a few embarrassing stories along the way
Find your own rhythm in life. Sometimes the stream takes unexpected turns, but it always finds its way. Moving at your own pace is perfectly fine.
Each step forward, no matter how small, is progress. The view from the top is worth the climb, but don't forget to appreciate the journey. You're adding your own sparkle to this world, in ways you might not even realize. Life has its own timing - some stars shine early, others later, but all are equally important. Remember that even the sun is just another star, yet it lights up our entire world. Your uniqueness is your superpower.
Stat strong, friend, you'll get through this
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