Currently, going through a lot of shit that I think I don't deserve. In my family,my father took several loans againsts all assests out of which some got taken by bank through auction. Next is his business, which is not working, he's at home since August 2022 and doesn't even find any jobs. My younger brother is pursuing bachelor degree and is also not making any efforts to even score good in his college. My mom is a hardworking and strong woman who is still stick to papa bcuz she has no other options available. I'm a sole earner in my family, paying rent to grocery n other expenses come under my umbrella. My relationship is going well but I'm not even 1% satisfied with his family. They're from UP and are somehow ready to sccept me but....they want me to follow all the narrow-minded made rules. You guys can't believe, they want me to sacrifice my job, freedom, and even my family. I have never imagined such family can exist in today's generation where they want their daughter to live a happy life without sacrificing anything. But don't want their daughter in law like her. Their conditions are: you need to wear saree for the whole life with ghunghat no other options. You can't do jobs outside home, wfh is allowed but need to handle family, husband, job, sanskar, and relatives at the same time. You can't go out alone. Anyone of his family should be there. You can't post anything on social medua, if you want, you should not add any of the family members n relatives in your channels. You cant even wear suit at home or outside home. Only wear when you'll go outside city or state. You have to handle home like yours and oy you've the responsibility of it. His sister frequently come to his home (multiple reason or sometimes no reasons) but i can't go to mine bcuz his parents are ill nd I have to take care of them. I need to sacrifice everything including parents just to prove his relatives that they found a so called sanskari bahu with no grudges and disagreement issues. I don't know what to do. I love him I also know that he can't took my back when it comes to freedom. He can't stand against his parents. All he is doing is brainwashing me with the name of good girl nd family-oriented woman who can do anything for her love.
I'm even going through mental health issues. I've migraine (severe headache) and depression. Even visited psychologist n neuro several times. But that shit somewhere scares me a lot, idk why. Sometimes, I even got suicidal thoughts due to these big list of problems.
Pleasehelp me out with this. What actions should I need to take? What to doš„ŗ please help me
