A lot of people fail to understand just how serious I am when I say a person has ONE time to say or do something that makes me question our connection and they’re DONE. Because I value honesty, respect, integrity and communication in all of my relationships — friendship or otherwise — I am incredibly transparent about what I will and won’t tolerate. I assert boundaries and expect for them to be respected the same way I intend to respect and adhere boundaries set with me.
I’m not going to yell, curse or antagonise someone for their inability to meet my expectations. With me actively practicing radical acceptance, I’m going to reflect and react accordingly. Are you someone who thrives off chaos and craves the familiarity of toxic relationships? Okay, I’m disassociating and wish you healing from afar. You prefer shallow conversations and unfulfilling relationships? Couldn’t be me but more power to you, let me just remove myself.
I refuse to entertain anything that doesn’t contribute to my success or happiness. I’m breaking cycles, re-parenting myself and continuously giving back to community. I’ve had my handful of unhealthy relationships and trauma bonds, I want nothing but peace, stability and love surrounding me. I understand everybody’s effort looks different and that it’s a start, but effort is no longer enough for me. I’m exhausted from being the only person proactively bettering themselves in every friendship or romantic partnership had.
I respect each person’s journey but I respect myself, time and wants more than anything and don’t sacrifice it for anyone anymore. This year will be a continuation of last with pursuing things that feel good to me and remaining selective about who gets my time and energy. I’ve created a healthy method that works for me and will continue to use it. 2025 will be my year of finding love, safety and security and I’ll ensure it.
