i noticed something last time, it's not a complain but it shows just different level of empathy and group dynamics which i find interesting!
i was with my friend and her friends that i met a few times.
they started to talk in front of me about a serie i don't watch, for minutes, i was interested of course and listened with attention, i even wanted them to develop on it by asking few questions (i was kinda afraid to ask stupid ones tho haha). and after they also talked about a party they planned later, that i'm sure i've been invited to but it's like i haven't been mentionned this time? i mean they counted and enumerated the names of people going and i wasn't in. i didn't want to look desperate to say "hey me!" but you know this feeling of when someone is talking to other people about a plan your not included in?
tbh i know they don't have malicious intent but it's just interesting to see that people can create a bubble, sub groups, while the moment i see there is no equal cohesion i immediately find a way to make everyone feel considered and people don't think about it, but their behavior is more common so normal i guess, so maybe i'm too overthinking!
and at the opposite when it was my turn to talk, for example i was talking with my friend about something we both share BUT as i didn't want others to feel excluded i asked their pov and choices on the topic, like "hey and you what would be the animal representing yourself, did you see the movie what did you think" etc for example.
also my friend mentionned something that happened that only her and i know about and she started giggling and i immediately explained the situation to others. i know really well how it feels when someone talks about something and when you ask it's like "yOu can't UnDerStAnD". lil gesture too, i would be the one serving waters to others first even when they didn't ask.
but you know i'm really traumatized hahah, because my friend asked a question about me and suddenly i started to stutter, i'm really not used to be listened, i wonder if i did too much
