I'm sorry, I don't need help. I just wanted to express my frustration.
After almost a year of depression I can finally say, that I'm not as depressed anymore. But now I feel anger. I don't know whether it's hypomania speaking in me, or whether it's me, who's just so frustrated and baffled at the fact, that I actually didn't get any emotional support during those times from my friends and relatives, from closest people around me.
I couldn't protect myself during those times. I felt extreme guilt, I felt like a failure, that I don't deserve any good. I was so vulnerable, so fragile, yet people around me considered it to be their duty to tell me that I'm not trying hard enough, that I'm just a fool who's stupid enough to not figure out how to live his life. My mother always reminded me how I'm being a burden for her, how I instead should've been a support for others. My friends suggested that maybe I don't want things that I was trying to achieve hard enough. I always felt shame for seeking for someone who could understand me. As if I was just seeking attention and pettiness. NO. I was seeking emotional help and support that I didn't get in the slightest. I'm so thankful that at the end of the day I turned out to be strong enough to bare those challenges despite having such incompetent friends and relatives.
I understand why they were as they were. Because affective mental disorders aren't considered to be a big deal. You seem perfectly normal, you're not screaming out of your mind. What's the problem then? Sometimes I feel "depressed" as well, I just try not to be consumed by it, I just think about my responsibilities and blah blah blah. I just want to return to times when i heard this bullshit and say shut the fuck up, just shut up. You have no idea what people are going through, nobody is asking you how are you dealing with your so called "depression". If person says that he's suffering don't minimize his problem, don't project your insecurities on him. If you can't help, just say sorry I can't help you, don't make things worse. Try to learn things if you don't understand them at least for your closest friends and relatives.
For those who's suffering: I'm with you. If people tell or suggest even in a slightest way that you're not trying hard enough, fuck them. They are fools who know nothing about hard challenges that you're going through every day. You're trying your best, even if you're just staying alive its enough. You are strong.
Hello! It really seems unfair when our loved ones treat us badly. Unfortunately, it happens. I understand that you want to reunite with your biological family, it’s normal and natural. But what kind of life is waiting for you among those people? Will you be happy there? The second thing, which you need to understand, is that other people’s attitude towards you doesn’t determine you as a personality. For example, if someone treats you badly, it doesn’t mean that you’re a bad person at all. It can only mean that this particular person decided to behave like this for whatever reason. And this reason actually has nothing to do with you. There is nothing you can do to change this behavior because it’s beyond your responsibility. Don’t try to change yourself or become a comfortable person for others, otherwise you will lose yourself. You say that you have to cope with this alone. Of course, we want some support from other people, but sometimes it is impossible. Think of the benefits, which this situation can give you. For example, it makes you more independent, capable of coping with difficulties. You will surely need these qualities in future, and you will be more prepared for life compared to children raised in favorable conditions.