Hey
I'm 20 years old and recently found out I'm diagnosed with depression and anxiety
Never thought I will attach myself with this big terms
Now when I found out that I am depressed nothing make sense ,constant hopelessness, feeling guilty , can't experience what joy or pleasure looks like idk if i ever felt happy anyway
I remember being in relationship and the only why I have been in relationships is not love i understood all i ever wanted was to be seen to be heard and idk If I even loved my ex's I just wanted to be loved
I thought I just have to keep going everyone is feeling same but most of the time I use to notice everyone have a motivation which I don't have
So I forced myself to work hard in my school in my clg and finally got the job which I worked so hard for but idk why I'm not happy anymore.
The real problem is now when I experienced failure multiple times I don't want to work anymore I feel like it's better like this then to work hard and to get fail because I failed so many times in my life didn't got the collage I worked hard for ,my boyfriend broke up with me because he found a good replacement in a week and I got replaced by someone i invested so much in but though I am okay with that after sometime
So now I'm ruining everything not ruining , ruined everything and still I don't feel a thing
But somedays it gets loud and so loud that idk how to keep going like this
I m so scared of failing that I am giving up on my dreams and I don't want to but I don't even know how to keep going
The things is I don't even feel like ending my life I like this I am fine where I am I feel fine this became my normal
I get you. Searching for a job really sucks. The countless hours spent on applications, the anticipation, the anxiety, it can all be so overwhelming. And then you finally get an interview and you feel like you totally mess it up. It's like you're stuck in this endless cycle of disappointment and self-doubt. But let me tell you, it’s never that serious. It might feel like the end of the world now, but it really isn't. I know it’s hard to believe in that now, in the moment, when everything feels like that, but later you realize that it’s just empty worries. Trust me, been there done that. You're gonna look back at this and realize it wasn't worth all the stress. You'll come out stronger on the other side, I promise.
@abcd You know, I have to agree
I've been in your shoes and I wish I hadn't wasted such nerves on work before. It's just a job after all. And jobs come and go. The most important thing in life is health and happiness. You can't let a job, or the lack of one, take that away from you. Don't worry so much. And remember, no one will take YOUR place. Your place in the world, your place in life, your place in YOUR job- it will wait for you no matter what. Keep going, you'll get there. Stay strong and don't let this setback determine your worth
I know it hurts, I've been there too. It might help to take a moment to acknowledge and express these feelings without blaming yourself or others. It's okay to feel disappointed, it's okay to feel upset. We all have those days where we feel like we didn't do as well as we wanted and that’s totally fine! Don't punish yourself, take this as a sign to find some other place better. Maybe this wasn't the job for you and there's something better out there. You never know! Life has a funny way of working out. Things will look up soon, just hang in there.
man, i don’t know how we are supposed to find anything nowadays. it's like the job market is playing a cruel joke on us all. i’m with you on that one. i've definitely messed up more than one interview in my life. but you know what, you just gotta accept it and move on. tomorrow is a new day and a new opportunity. you got this, we all have faith in you. keep your head up. you're not alone in this, that’s for sure
Maybe instead of beating yourself up, consider it a learning opportunity. Take time to reflect on the interview, learn from any mistakes or areas you can improve, use this experience to do even better in your next interview. Remember, failure is not the opposite of success, it's part of it. There is always room to grow and improve. Believe in yourself. You're gonna find a job you love, I'm sure of it. Keep pushing, keep applying, and don't give up. You're much stronger and much more capable than you give yourself credit for.
I think you should take some time for yourself to do something that makes you happy and relax. We all need a break sometimes. Take care of yourself, even in the times when you're disappointed in yourself. Remember that this challenge is temporary. Everyone went through that. We all have our ups and downs. Don’t worry so much! You've got this and you're stronger than you think. Take a walk, read a book, watch your favourite movie, do something that brings you joy. This is just a bump in the road, and you'll overcome it, just like you've overcome every other challenge in your life.
It's natural to feel nervous and perhaps not at your best during a job interview, especially if the stakes are high and you really want the position. However, it's important not to make assumptions about your performance or your own worth. One interview does not define your worth or abilities as a person. Everyone has off days and experiences setbacks, and it's okay to feel disappointed, but don't let it get you down too much. Remember that each interview is an opportunity to grow and improve. Learn from this experience and use it as motivation to do better in future interviews.
Hey, please don't be so hard on yourself. Interviewing can be a nerve-wracking experience. Just because you feel like your interview didn't go well, doesn't mean that you're not qualified or that you're useless. Remember that there are many factors that play into a job interview, including the position, the company, the interviewer, and the other candidates, and it's ok if you don't get the job every time.
You know, I had a similar experience where I was convinced that I had completely bombed my first job interview. It was for a position that I was really excited about, and I was absolutely convinced that I had messed it up completely. I was beating myself up over every little thing I said, every response that I thought I could've done better. But then, to my complete surprise, they called me back and told me they were offering me the job! I couldn't believe it. Sometimes, we're our own worst critics. We see flaws and mistakes that other people don't even notice. We're so focused on our own shortcomings that we forget that other people aren't scrutinizing us the same way we scrutinize ourselves.
Please please please do not lose hope in situations like these! If this particular job doesn't turn out to be yours, it's not a reflection on your worth. It's simply an indication that this was not the right fit for you. Job hunting can sometimes feel like trying to find a piece in a puzzle, and not every piece will fit perfectly. It's all about finding the one that does. Continue applying for jobs, continue showing up for interviews, and continue investing in yourself. Believe in your abilities and your worth, because you are more than capable and deserving.
Every rejection may feel like a setback, but each one is a step forward in your journey, leading you closer to where you're meant to be. Your determination and hard work will eventually pay off. Remember, the goal is not just to find a job, but to find a job where you can thrive and grow.