Let's address each thing step by step. First lets address the fear of failure

There are various ways to manage fear of failure:

First start by asking yourself these questions:

Next time you are scared take a deep breath and write your thoughts. Ask these questions to prompt a different way of thinking:

• What am i really afraid of?
• who am i fighting for?
• what is the worse that could happen if i fail?
• what if i succeed next time?

These are few therapies which you can use to overcome the fear of failure:

# Cognitive behavioural therapy:

It is form of psychotherapy that helps you change negative thinking about failure. Your therapist through series of activities will help you see that some things that you see failure are actually positive opportunities for learning and growth. You can also cope with this fear and anxiety through deep breathing and meditation. Whenever you do something and there is intense emotions running in your body .These emotions could be fear of failure then in such case you should just sit down at calm environment and close your eyes. Take a deep breath from your nose and hold your breath for 5 seconds then exhale slowly from your mouth. Do this for 10 min. Feel your body inhaling all those negative energy and exhaling out.

# Exposure therapy:

Gradually exposing yourself to the source of fear can help you overcome your fear response. Take a book and write down the entire scenario where you feel you failed in the past. now write down what happened if you failed and what drastic changes happened in your life because you failed. next think about the same scenario and see as a third person what advice would you to give to your friend who is going through this situation. See if you can apply this same solution for yourself. it is recreating scenarios with positive way of handling it.

# Set realistic goals for yourself which you know can be achieved. By setting unrealistic goals only increases the possibility of failure.

# Give yourself more options to each situation. imagine and visualise multiple possible endings. if you did not get the college you worked for then what was plan b. always have 2-3 options. You cant predict the future so always keep options open. Consider there can be possibilities that plan b or plan c option turned out better than you think.

now let's address the lack of joy and lack of motivation. whenever you feel there is nothing which makes me happy anymore or what is the point of life or nothing makes sense then you are in sense of deep depression. Anhedonia is inability to derive joy or happiness from anything around you is common indication of depression or anxiety. it is coupled with lack of motivation on one's behalf to try anything as nothing seems to matter anymore and there is reward or pleasure to be derived. There could be various reasons you feel like that:

• write down what happiness should be or what it means to you:

write down what happiness is according to you . at least this way you will understand what is missing in your life and work towards achieving it. this will give you the motivation to work which you feel is lacking. like example you say i just want to be heard in the relationship then get into a relationship which gives you that. relationship which cant give you that is not worth your time.

• Meditate regularly

a daily meditation routine and focusing on slow breathing will boost happiness levels over time. practise gratitude meditation which is you breathe in through nose and say 1 thing you are grateful for today. it could be anything that happened today and you should be thankful and grateful for it, then exhale. keep doing this for 10 min. Every time you breathe think of distinct things you are grateful for that day.

• Get sufficient rest, take care of yourself and exercise or at least walk everyday

• set a goal for yourself . do it for everyday. see it is achievable and attainable so that will give you boost in energy.

kindly reach a therapist who can help you.