I am fed up of putting up with a narcissistic partner for last 11 years. I am reduced to a position below that of the house help of the house. I am abused, harassed, shamed, manipulated, socially disgraced, neglected, in validated, gas lighted (the works!) at the hands of my partner and to an extent by his step son, step daughter and extended family.
I am caught up in a Catch 22 situation as this is my 3rd marriage and there is a heavy stigma attached to broken marriages in the Asian culture that I belong to. Thank God for my education, self confidence, financial independence and the support of my own family, I have managed to survive the abusive 3rd marriage (first marriage was of no consequence as it lasted 3 days, the 2nd marriage saw 2 years of co-habiting before I was abandoned).
Thanks to my understanding of Psychology, I managed to diagnose my current partner's personality disorder all by myself, when the whole world around him, ignored me, my pleas and my needs. How can a woman seek recourse from a mental disorder when there is no acknowledgement of it? My mother and my brother are not in favour of divorce and do tend to persuade me to go back to the hell hole every time. No I am not putting the blame on others as I AM A STRONG PERSON and can take and live up to my own independent decisions. But I sort of feel so TIRED of sorting out my twisted personal and professional life ALL MY LIFE.
I need help.
