It sounds like you're carrying a lot of weight on your shoulders rn. I'm genuinely sorry to hear that you're going through this. It's a big burden to carry alone. From what you've shared, it seems like your interactions are largely limited to your family members. Often, when we're wrapped up in familial responsibilities, it becomes diffivult to maintain or establish new social connections. However, human beings are social creatures by nature, and having a supportive network outside of family can be vital for our mental well-being. I'm curious, have you ever tried to reach out to people outside your family? Sometimes, telling our problms to friends or even acquaintances can help ease the burdens we are experiencing. You might be surprised to find how many people can relate to you or offer a fresh perspective.
I would highly suggest that you try to make time for self-care. It seems like you give it very little attention at all. It can be as simple as taking a walk, reading a book, or doing something you enjoy. Caring for others is good and very selfless of you, but please don't forget about yourself. It's not selfish to take care of your own needs - in fact, it's essential. You can't pour from an empty cup, after all.
I'm so sorry you're going through this!
Your coworkers are shitty people. You shouldn't give them your precious attention. It doesn't matter even if they have something that is considered 'respectable' in their circle. If they can't respect you for who you are, they are miserable people. Everyone is worthy of respect. Despite whether or not they fit into your picture of the world. You matter and are valued regardless of what they think. Not everybody has to live by the same rules. If we lived in a world like this, can you imagine how boring it would be? We'd have no geniuses, no athletes, no authors. If everyone lived by a set of rules, the world would be bland and boring. Never compare yourself to someone else. Good luck with everything!
I have a similar thing going on.
I recently turned 36 and thought by now I would have family, friends, and weekends with backyard BBQs. But the American dream wasn't meant to be. I'm not married, I'm not in a relationship, I don't want kids anymore, and I live in a rented apartment. I'm working at my dream job, but be afraid of your dreams. My burning eyes have faded. I don't want to do or undertake anything. My perfect evening is quite simple - some good TV with a beer in hand. What's interesting is that I see examples of those picture-perfect families I once dreamed of being a part of all around me. It used to bring me down, but lately, I don't feel that way. Am I getting over it? Idek.
I don't know if this helps you, but sometimes it helps me to know that I'm not the only one with these problems.
You have taken on so many responsibilities-caring for siblings, work..it's time for you to take a break. Because of the stress and feeling of 'obligation' can contribute to the state you're currently in. Everyone should take a break and breathe a little from time to time. Taking a break doesn't mean you have to go on a long vacation or completely change your routine. It can be as simple as taking 10, 30, 50 minutes each day for self-care, depending on your schedule. During this time, try to do things you enjoy but have been neglecting due to lack of time. Maybe you like to read books, listen to music, or perhaps take a walk. You rlly deserve a break!
i wish i had you as a sibling. i am not close to my parents and my brother at all. i feel like i am a disappointment to them. i could never be as strong as you are. i don't want to give you advice because i am just incompetent even in my own struggles. i just want to say from the bottom of my heart that i am proud of you. you may not see your accomplishments, but from an outsider's perspective it is obvious that you have already done a lot in your life. and it includes having the empathy, strength and supporting your family. not everyone can do that. you are a great person and i hope you know that
@Hopeless 10000%. It's sad but true, people often focus on the negative aspects of others. It's just a reflection of their own insecurities and has nothing to do with you. People throw rocks at things that shine. So, don't let the harsh words or dirty looks of others bring you down. Instead, focus on the things that bring you happiness and fulfillment. You are enough just as you are!!!
it's tough, man, I won't lie..ur dealing w/ a lot of stuff rn. but here's the thing, it's okay to ask for help. we often feel like we need to face everything alone, but that's not the case. reach out to people, talk about your feelings. a problem shared is a problem halved, right? keep your chin up, you're doing great!!
@luettgencoby313 I wanted to say the same thing. Much of what I was thinking has already been said in this thread. But I want to add a little more. In a world where everyone is always rushing, finding joy in the things you do is a radical act of self-care. Remember that comic book you loved as a kid? Or that one song that always makes you want to dance? Indulge in those little joys. The world won't fall apart if you take a break. And most importantly don't feel guilty about taking a break
Sooo I was off my meds for a while now and I relate to the feeling of worthlessness and resentment towards others. I sometimes catch myself wondering, do I really dislike these people, or am I just envious because they don't have to deal with mental health issues like I do lmao I find comfort in trying to distract myself. Books and youtube have always been a go-to for me. Idk how long I should do this for before I get better but the key is to not put a time limit on our healing process. The realization that it’s different for everyone makes me okay with it
Hi,
I understand you are going through a lot. It's not easy to process all these feelings and emotions. At one side you are taking a huge responsibility of your siblings. It's beautiful to see how you hold yourself responsible for everyone and working hard to support them. On the other side you are having a terrible work environment where colleagues are speaking inappropriately.
In this situation i would ask you to first sit down and think what would make you happy. now i want you to think for yourself not think about your siblings or anyone else. as an individual what should you do or can do which can make you happy even for 10 min in a day. list it down and see if you can at least do that everyday. It can be very small minute thing like listening to music or going for a walk. It is very important that you feel good and happy within. This will help you to deal with situation's you face more confidently and in a better way. only when you are in good state of mind you will get better clarity of how to handle the situation and process your emotions. You should also reach to a counsellor to help you with this emotional turmoil, depression. As problems, situation kept culminating from long time in your head and led you to feel so empty.
You could also do a activity where you make 2 columns. first column write down what troubles you most and second column how do you think you can deal with. When you write down a problem in detail you analyse situation in depth. This will help you to equip yourself to deal with the problem.
Relationships are also very important in life like friendships or committed relationship. Person with whom you can share your problems or talk your heart out which will make you lighter. go be part of clubs where you can meet people or online communities where you can interact.
Circumstances in life has negatively affected your self esteem. You need to do following activity to boost your morale and self esteem.
Remember only when you feel good about yourself you will feel reflect the same feelings about the world and towards the world. It is important you do go to a counselor.