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lmcglynn642
1y ago

I feel listless and tired

These days, i feel exhausted and tired just by living. I'm becoming a rock. I'm losing my ability to react to life.Just two months ago i had my last chance for university entrance exam and i couldn't get in anywhere. I'm not proud to say this but i used to be quite a studious student.I don't even know what happened but i did this to my own. I knew this was my last chance and studied nothing. And for that, I'm not a bit remorseful. Why am i becoming like this? Under normal circumstance the previous me would have lost her grip of life worried abt my academic situation. But im not. And i feel bad for not being worried abt it at all. For the past 2 years, i don't know why, but nothing seems interesting or worthy to me. I can't even bring myself to focus on things i actually like. For example, i really liked korean culture and language so i ended up purchasing a course. Needless to say, i quite enjoyed the first few classes but now it became nothing but a burden to me.I want to enjoy things i actually like but i mentally can not. I give up halfway. I'm at the prime of my life and i hate myself for wasting my time like this and what i hate most that i can't stop myself from being like this.

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Dr. Elisabeth Jones
1y
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Hello!

The very first and most important point you need to deal with in this situation is to understand the root cause. Apathy and lack of interest in something are a consequence. It is important to find out what is behind them. Did the state you describe always accompany you or did it appear at some point?

Let me tell you a secret: all children are born active and curious. Exploring the world, developing, trying new things, striving for something - all these are the natural needs of every person. But during life, for various reasons (most often due to psychological trauma or difficult circumstances), these instincts are dulled and a person becomes apathetic and weak-willed.

In order to clarify the causes of your state, I suggest doing the following exercise. Take two chairs and place them some distance apart. Sit on one of them, facing the other. Now imagine your current state as some kind of image. For example, it can be some kind of object or a fairy-tale hero. What does this state look like? Mentally place this image on the second chair. Then, turning to this image, ask all the questions you’re interested in. For example:

- Tell me how long ago did you appear?

- Why did you come to me?

- What do you want to tell me?

- What function do you perform?

- What message do you carry?

- What do you want from me?

Ask all the questions that come to your mind. Relax, take your time, do everything steadily. Listen carefully to the answers that will come from the image. Do not try to evaluate them, but calmly accept them.

At the end, ask the image a question: “Is there anything else you want to tell me about?” and listen carefully to the answer.

After that, thank the image for the dialogue and take away the chairs. I hope that this exercise will help you make the situation clear and understand the cause of your state. After that, you will have to make a plan and take action in a new way. Good luck!

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ibaadur72@gmail.com
1y

This too shall pass bro/sis, there is always the light at the end of the tunnel


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bubu
1y

Look, I feel there's no harm when one needs a break from life, if you're feeling so from within then don't be ashamed to sit back and relax, it's never too late for anything so don't rush, additionally I also feel maybe you need a change that's why they you're not interested in the same old things again so if it's so then go for it try something new

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kookie pie
1y

I am going through the exact same thing.

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