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Veena Choudhary
1y
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Early adulthood brings a lot of changes so whenever you move to new city, settling in a new country homesickness is bound to happen. As much as you might be looking forwards to next step in your life , moving away from home can stir up a mix of feelings and emotions.


There are few strategies you can follow to help you:


  • Develop self care practices :


Stay positive by doing something every day that makes you smile. It could be like going to new coffee shop or walk near by. Develop a positive outlook. Give yourself something to look forwards to, no matter how small.


  • Set a goal for the day:


plan your day so that you can avoid boredom and wait for the day to start. Try learning something new everyday which will give you kick of excitement. do it for few days and automatically you will settle in.


  • Bring reminders of home:


Tell your parents to send something from home which would be related to your childhood or things which make you feel you are at home like blanket, photos of your family, stationery with memories. These items make your living space feel more your own and help you feel connected to your home.


  • Change your perspective:


Thinking about everything that is going on at home without you is understandable but instead of focussing on what you are missing, try finding opportunities available to you in your new location. Start attending networking events in the college or look for clubs that might interest you. This will help you to share such exciting things with your family or friends.


  • Distract yourself:


If you find yourself caught in cycle of negative feelings then try to find distractions for few minutes. clean your room, go for walk, talk to your family or try mindfulness exercises to keep you from slipping into homesick thoughts. Mindfulness exercises like:


>>>> Do walking meditation. Leave your electronics and go for walk. pay attention to your surroundings and see how much you have discovered about your neighbourhood.


>>>> Mindfulness bell: listen to cue in your surroundings. listen to various types of noises around like bird, vehicles, bells, people talking and focus on the sounds to distract yourself. Focus on the sounds till it fades away. this will help ground you in the present moment.

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uweissnat
1y

You're just adapting...you'll be fine for a month. Try to fill the day with good impressions.

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kris
1y

you're not used to it, new country, new apartment, new people. Get to know someone and everything will work out.

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xoxo
1y

Find someone who is also from your country. You can do or talk about things you miss. Get in touch with your friends and family back home. Think of it as your second home. You belong there. Make friends. I wish you all the best :)

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tyler
1y
Author

@xoxo Thank you!!! I'll try to do that!!!

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tyler
1y
Author

@Veena Choudhary Thank you, you have given me a lot of great tips!!! I will try to apply them!!!

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tyler
1y
Author

@uweissnat Thank you, realizing that it's just an adjustment and it will pass somehow helps. Thank you!!!

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