Hey there! You're doing amazing, girl! It's awesome that you've achieved so much at such a young age. Remember, everyone's journey is different and it's okay to feel a bit lost from time to time. Continue shining and stay positive, the right people will come into your life when the time is right. Sending you good vibes!
That's exactly why I gave up on the idea of being a flight attendant. I'm just too dependent on my family. I think I'd miss them like crazy if I wasn't around them often
I mean, don't get me wrong, the job sounds amazing in so many ways. Getting to travel to all these cool places and meet new people all the time? That's pretty awesome. But for me, the thought of not having a stable home base and being away from my loved ones for long periods just didn't sit right
I remember when I was considering it, I'd imagine coming home after a long trip and not having anyone there to greet me. That made me feel kind of sad, to be honest
Plus I'm really close with my friends here. We have our weekly hangouts and inside jokes. The thought of missing out on all that stuff because I'm always on the go was a bit too much for me to handle
I really admire you for pursuing your dreams and making it work. It takes a special kind of person to thrive in that environment. Just remember it's okay to feel lonely sometimes, it's part of being human. Maybe you could find ways to stay connected with your loved ones even when you're far away? Like, scheduled video calls or something?
Anyway, I hope you find a way to balance your awesome career with your need for meaningful connections. You deserve both!
@Tabitha Sharp same with me. i'm such a homebody i can't imagine being away from my family for too long, but my younger self was dreaming of being in the sky
you're 22 and already living your dream? that's more than most people can say in a lifetime! so what if you're feeling a bit lonely? that's just part of growing up. start appreciating what you've got—you're flying around the world, seeing new places, meeting new people. some folks would kill for that kind of life! relationships are overrated anyway. focus on yourself, your career, your own happiness. the right person will come along when they're supposed to. until then, enjoy your freedom!
Girllll, I feel you! 💖 I'm 25 and went through hell when I started my modeling career. Always on the go, meeting new people, but feeling kinda empty inside. Was surrounded by people all the time, but still managed to feel alone. Yeah, I was starting to life my dream back then, but it all felt so lonely and my heart wanted something more
But lsten, it gets better! I found my boo eventually and he totally gets my crazy schedule. Don't stress about finding someone right now. Focus on loving yourself and building amazing friendships. Trust me, you'll meet someone who'll sweep you off your feet (or should I say, out of the sky? 😉)
Don't feel discouraged, queen! You're doing amazing things and the right person will come along to appreciate all that awesomeness. In the meantime, enjoy the ride and all those amazing destinations! BTW, what's the coolest place you've been to so far?
@Jan Yesss, so it's not just me who noticed the similarities between modeling and being a flight attendant! I totally get what you're saying, Jan. I actually had to part ways with my partner just because of this crazy lifestyle. The schedule is soooo hectic, and I'm literally all over the world. It's hard to maintain a relationship when you're never in one place for long and have a jealous partner (like I did hhaha)
@Jan Aww, thanks for asking, Jan! You're so sweet. You know what? I'm actually doing pretty dam good being single. At first, it was really hard and I felt super lonely. But now I'm kinda enjoying the freedom. I can focus on myself, my career, and all the amazing places I get to see. Plus, no drama! 😂 How about you? How did you manage to find someone who understands your crazy schedule? I feel like this is impossible
@Lucas Oh no, I'm so sorry that your partner couldn't handle your schedule! 😢 That must have been really tough. But you know what? We gotta do what's best for us, even if it hurts. You're out there living your dream, that's amazing! How are you holding up now? Are you feeling okay about being single? I am so grateful for my bf. He encourages me to pursue my dream life and yes, models and flight attendants have a lot in common, even if it doesn't seem so at first
@Lucas I'm so glad you're doing well!! And yasss to no drama! 👏 As for me, finding my man was totally unexpected. We actually met on a layover in Paris (how romantic, right? 😍). He's a freelance photographer, so he gets the whole "always on the move" thing. It's not always easy, but we make it work with lots of video calls and surprise visits. Anyway, I hope you have good day, it was nice chatting with a fellow model 💖
i dreammmm of being a flight attendant like you one day!!! i'm still in school right now, but i'm super curious about how you got into it. do you have any tips for someone like me? im really sorry that you're struggling with loneliness. i get that feeling too sometimes, even though i'm always with my family. to be honest, i can't wait to graduate and go away as far as i possibly can lmao. i'm hoping that becoming a flight attendant will help me do that. but i guess the grass is always greener, right? its cool that you're so proud of what you've achieved at your age. you should be! flying to new places all the time sounds like a dream come true. i hope i can do that someday too
anyway, i just wanted to say that i think what you're doing is awesome. i hope you find a way to feel less lonely. and if you have any advice for a wannabe flight attendant, i'd love to hear it! take care!
@ramona d hey Ramona ,
Hope you r doing well
If I have to give you one advice then it would be take care of your body your skin and just be yourself .
This job requires your real version even in the worst scenario. And I hope that you'll achieve your goals soon ☺️
@ramona d I don't get scared of turbulence anymore..... Now I'm use to it . My one of the fav place is Bangkok.
I love reading books specially while flying if I have time I'll make myself a good coffee and read something .
Plus I feel like every flight I do there so many things to learn every passenger teaches you so much .
Once you start flying you can relate to it
@anonymous omg thank you so much for the advice!!! i’ll definitely remember that. it’s so cool to actually hear it from someone who’s actually doing the job. i was wondering, do you ever get scared when there’s turbulence? or do you just get used to it? also have you ever been to any places you’d recommend? i’m sorry you’re feeling lonely. do you have any hobbies or things that you like to do when you’re now flying? maybe that could help?
anyway, thank you again for the tips! you’re awesome!
Yes, your job may make it challenging to form lasting connections, but it doesn't mean it's impossible. Consider exploring ways to build meaningful relationships outside of work. What do you think would make you feel more fulfilled in your personal life while maintaining your successful career?
I get you, girl. For real. I'm not a flight attendant and I don't have a crazy schedule like you, but let me tell you, finding a decent man in 2024 is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. It's tough out there!
You're so right about not telling grown men how to treat women. Like, seriously? We shouldn't have to teach them that stuff. It's 2024, they should know better by now.
I totally feel you on the loneliness thing. It hits hard sometimes, doesn't it? Especially when you see your friends with their partners. It's like where's my person at?
But hey, you're living your dream life! Flying to new places, making good money. That's amazing, girl. Don't let the relationship stuff bring you down too much
I know it's easier said than done, but try to enjoy your freedom. You're young, successful. Maybe try to connect with other crew members? I know you said you can't have permanent people, but maybe you can build some friendships that way? It might help with the loneliness
And don't give up hope on finding someone. There are good guys out there, they're just... well hidden sometimes. Keep your standards high and don't settle for less than you deserve
@BAT I'm honestly so over this hookup culture we're living in. Can't we just have real connections anymore? I'm tired of people treating relationships like they're disposable. I feel that everyone's just looking for the next best thing 🤷♀️ I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm all for people doing what makes them happy, but it's hard to find someone who wants something real these days. Everyone's so scared of commitment, it's crazy!! !😅 And don't even get me started on dating apps. They're just making everything worse, if you ask me
@BAT You get it! 🙌 I've had guys ask me out for coffee and then try to turn it into a netflix and chill situation. Excuse me? I'm not here for that, thank you very much! It's so frustrating. I just want to meet someone genuine. But you're right, we've got to keep our chins up. 💪 It's just hard when you see everyone's coupled up and you're still single. But hey, at least we're not settling, right? That's got to count for something
@Sprinkles girl, I feel you so hard on this! The hookup culture is exhausting. I swear, sometimes I feel like I'm living in a world of commitment-phobes!
But let me tell you something, it's not just you feeling this way. So many of my friends are in the same boat. We're all out here looking for something real, but it's like trying to find a unicorn or something. And gosh, those dating apps! No comment
We all deserve that special someone who's gonna be there through thick and thin. Keep your chin up, babe. We'll find our people eventually. Until then, we just gotta have a person to vent to, right?
I've learned that we all have to make choices and that everyone is jealous of each other in some way. It's funny, isn't it? We look at other people and think they have it all figured out, yet the truth is, they're probably looking at us thinking the same thing. That's just how life works. I've realized that no one has a perfect life. We all have our ups and downs. Sure, your friends might have partners who make them feel special, but I bet there's something in your life that they wish they had.
I'm more than a year in now and It's definitely a mentally and physically exhausting job and for me loneliness never really went away, especially those night stops, man... They are still tough
It's funny, though. My friends back home always say I have this dream life because I don't have a routine. But honestly, having a routine is the only thing keeping me sane and moving forward these days
But I'm grateful for this job. It made me much more independent and in a way gave me purpose ? Idk
to be honest, i don't think i even have real friends anymore. i've worked hard and achieved a lot professionally. but when it comes to my personal life, it's a different story. it's kind of scary to admit that. i was so focused on chasing success that i didn't notice how i was losing all my connections along the way. i guess i got caught up in the idea that success would make me happy. but now i'm realizing that success doesn't mean much if you don't have anyone to share it with. dating feels impossible too. like you said, it's hard to find someone who treats you right. and even if i did, i'm not sure i know how to be in a relationship anymore. i think the hardest part is feeling like i'm starting from scratch with my personal life while my career is so established. it's like i'm two different people
Hi,
It is Commendable that you have achieved your dream. Kudos to you for that.
Now let's talk about your trust issues. i would want to understand from how long do you have this? has anything happened in the past like someone broke your trust which has led to this or any incident within your family has shaped this? It is important that you do talk to a therapist about it as he needs to address the root cause of this issue to help you out from it. You also need to become aware of what has triggered this trust issue.
One of the way to rebuild trust is to talk about the betrayal or situation with a therapist or someone close. I understand it would be painful and uncomfortable for you but till you dont process, address those feelings, till you don't release it out form your heart you would continue to feel like that. Even for you to get into a relationship you need to initially say it out to the person what and how do you feel and what has happened that makes you mistrust, what you would need for them to do so that you can trust again this will help them to also understand you better. This will help your relationship also to grow. But for you to reach that stage to communicate this to a person requires you to address the root cause of it. only then will you feel comfortable to talk. You should also not rush into the relationship. Allow yourself to know someone gradually. It would take time to build trust in a relationship but if you move ahead slowly and gradually you will be able to help yourself.
You should start slowly by sharing with a person a small information and see how does he keep that secret.