Biggest mistake seeking validations from others, even from your best of people, maybe words of affirmation are needed, but validation?!?!? not at all, you are your own boss, you need to do approve of yourself if nobody else does but you do then no-one else matters, do not hate on yourself on the basis of those who have no importance in your life
@ahaan thanks for the support
@Dr. Elisabeth Jones thank you! i'll try to follow your advice
You do not need to care about others opinion about you buddy, if you're good enough or not for them, you're not here to be good enough for them, you're here to serve a better and greater cause, they're not the boss of you, you are the boss of yourself, do not let these itsy bitsy characters matter so much in your life, they are good for nothing but gossiping about someone, do you, don't care about their opinions
Anyone's liking or hating for you doesn't determine you as a person, what you think about yourself matters, do not care about them, why do you need to fit a glass shoe?!?! why you need to be likable According to their bars , you do not need to serve anyone, you're your own Boss, do not stand such people who put you down, stand up for yourself for your respect, do not settle for this behavior, also you do not need to change yourself to be liked the right people will like you and love you for who you are
Nice to see im not aloan but its my bipola and just need to be honest follow God and the programme. I choose to get better not stay sick. Put in the action and do the next right thing.
Keep strong
Make a list of things you think are good about you , and the achievements. Sometimes if you dont think about good stuff , you just focus on failures . As far as people are concerned, you are never good enough for them or you are too good for them , so either way , their validation is not imp .
@dwuckert43 most welcome
Hello!
As far as I can see you’re having a deep and strong emotional struggle. I can also suppose that actually there are no visible reasons for this. It’s all about what is happening inside you. The first thing you should do is to find the real reason why you feel these emotions. Try to remember situations in which you felt the same way starting from your early childhood up to the present moment. Think of potential triggers of these emotions, why they overwhelm you. For example, what other people say about you or your personal thoughts. Try to recollect the very first case when these emotions emerged. What was the situation like? What were the details? Most likely this was something bad your parents or other relatives told you or did.
The next step is to think what emotions you would like to experience instead. How would you like to feel? Try to imagine this new condition in the form of any object and put it in your right hand in your thought. Now when you have this object in your hand, try to encounter those unpleasant situations again starting from the very first one up to the last one you can remember. Place yourself in them while being in this new resourceful state. After you finish this practice watch your feelings change. How do you feel right now? Our negative reactions, beliefs and emotions are usually formed in childhood, and we have to carry them throughout our entire life. But with the help of this technique of coming through your past experience in a different way you can change your state. When you find yourself in this negative state again in future, simply shift to another state and re-encounter this situation with new emotions and in a new resourceful state. If you practice this technique on a regular basis, such shifts will occur automatically.