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Veena Choudhary
219d
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It is a natural reaction to feel low, guilty. But i want to understand where is this guilt part coming from? do you compare yourself to others? or are your parents saying you something? do people around you question what are you doing? or your friends have all got job and they have said something to you about their job which makes you feel sad? If that is the case then see how you can use this to your advantage instead of self doubting yourself or feeling guilty. if a friend has got a job see how did she get it, where did she apply, what did she include in her resume. This is all phase of learning and do that to feel proud in the future of your perseverance, of how hard you worked to get job. You will have your own beautiful story to talk about in the future. so instead of worrying about the future see how you can work on your present to make the best future. It is not all about the job but to make the process of getting the job better.


There are several things you can do to retain or boost your self -esteem currently:


  • Volunteer. Try to help others.here you can do 2 things: first if you have certain skills then start teaching others that which will help you feel good about yourself. join online opportunities which will give you this option to teach that skill online to others. you can also check out Volunteer match,Taproot foundation . secondly you can be part of ngo and help others. Help ing makes a world better place and you would feel better too.
  • Start networking with people of common interest. check if there any events happening in your city where you can network with people from the organisation and that might help you.
  • One of the worst part of being unemployed is the feeling that you have not control over your life. do an activity you enjoy or passionate about will help you in gaining control over your life.
  • Use this time to learn an additional skill required for this job. do not feel bad that you would be spending money on it but at the end of the day it will help you in the future. you may not get ample lot of time later to do this.
  • Challenge every negative thought which arises in your head saying am i not good enough? did i make a mistake? answer these questions in a journal do you really feel like that or it is assumption. Let this assumption not ruminate in your head and make you feel low further. you need all your confidence, strength to keep going. do not let these statement pull you down as a job doesn't define you. You can also re check with your priorities in your life and check if anything further you can do from your end for the job or is this career perfect for you or you need to re-think about it.


Remember you are atleast trying your best to apply for different jobs and attending interviews. You are trying and working hard and that defines you.

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rottentwenties
228d

first off, i want to acknowledge the strength it takes to share what you're going through. it's not easy to open up about feelings, especially when facing something as challenging as unemployment. it's important to remember that your worth isn't defined by your job status. many talented and skilled individuals find themselves in similar situations due to factors outside their control, such as economic shifts or industry changes. it's a tough market out there, and the fact that you're actively applying and attending interviews speaks volumes about your determination. the rejection isn't a reflection of your abilities or potential. often, it's just a matter of timing or finding the right fit.


you're not alone in feeling like a burden, but it's crucial to understand that your family supports you because they care about you, not because they see you as a responsibility


remember that every application or interview is a step closer to finding your next position. each experience, successful or not, is valuable in building resilience and learning more about yourself and what you want in a career

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HOLLY C.
228d

Have you noticed any particular trends or patterns in the types of jobs you're applying for? It could be beneficial to analyze these factors and see if there's something specific you can adjust in your approach. Additionally, how are you presenting yourself during interviews? Sometimes, small tweaks in communication or presentation can make a significant difference. This isn't to say there's anything wrong with you, but rather that there might be external factors at play. Keep your chin up and maintain a curious mindset. Exploring these angles could lead to new opportunities.

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litteljanessa
228d

Look, I get it. This whole situation sucks, plain and simple. But let's take a moment to be real about it. The job market is a beast right now, and you're doing everything you can. It's not about being "good enough"—it's about timing, luck, and sometimes just plain nonsense. Have you ever thought about exploring different avenues? Maybe something unconventional that you haven't considered before? Life is full of unexpected twists, and this could be an opportunity in disguise. Don't let the weight of the world get to you. You're capable, and you will find your way through this!

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Before_I
228d

@litteljanessa I totally agree. The job market can be brutal and the struggle to find employment isn't a reflection of your worth or abilities, op. Sometimes, it's just a matter of luck, timing, etc. It's important to remember that you're putting in the effort and that's what counts. Life is unpredictable, and this could be a chance to discover something amazing that you haven't considered before. Don't let despair take over; you've got this!

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Anita
228d

Hey there, I can totally understand why you're feeling this way. It's tough when you're putting in all the effort and not seeing the results you'd hoped for. But, it's not just you; many people are facing similar challenges. It might be helpful to take a step back and assess the situation from a broader perspective. Are there any skills you could improve upon in the meantime? Maybe there's a different industry or type of job you haven't considered yet. Remember, every application and interview is a learning opportunity. It's not necessarily a reflection of your worth or abilities

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vpagac273
228d

Saaaaame!!! Every morning, I wake up with this heavy weight in my chest, the dread of another day filled with uncertainty. It feels like a never-ending cycle of applying, waiting, and being let down. The hardest part is seeing the worry in my family's eyes. They reassure me, telling me it's just a matter of time, but I can't help but feel like I'm letting them down!!! I catch myself avoiding conversations about career and future plans, fearing the inevitable question about my job status. UGH I’m such a LOSER!!

Each rejection email feels like a confirmation of my deepest insecurities. It's exhausting, trying to keep up appearances when all I want to do is curl up and hide from the world. I miss having a routine, a purpose to my days. The freedom I once thought unemployment might bring is overshadowed by anxiety and guilt

I often wonder if I took a wrong turn somewhere, chose the wrong path or didn't seize the right opportunities. It's hard to distinguish between genuine reflection and self-pity. My friends tell me to take this time to explore myself, but it's difficult to focus on anything when my mind is clouded with worry and money

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Jessie Brown
228d

@vpagac273 I understand where you're coming from. I've been in your shoes and it's tough. But I want to tell you that there's hope, so please don't give up. I know it feels like the rejections will never end, but things can change when you least expect it. I was unemployed for months, applying to every job I could find. But then, out of nowhere, an opportunity came up, and it changed everything for me


Your family is right, it really is just a matter of time. You have to believe in yourself, even when it feels impossible. Use this time to learn more about yourself and what you truly want. Sometimes, the right job is just around the corner, waiting for you to find it

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Jessie Brown
228d

@vpagac273 I completely understand where you're coming from, and it's okay to feel frustrated and lost. Comparing yourself to others is natural, but remember that everyone is unique. What worked for someone else might not work for you, and that’s perfectly alright. When I was in the thick of it, I found it helpful to focus on what I could control. The job market can be unpredictable, and sometimes, it really does come down to being in the right place at the right time. Instead of thinking of this as lost time, try to view it as a period for growth and self-discovery

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Jessie Brown
227d

@vpagac273 It sounds like you're already on the right path by considering what truly makes you happy. It’s never easy to step into the unknown, but sometimes, taking that step can lead to the most rewarding experiences. Starting over can be scary ik, but it’s never too late to change direction if it means finding something that fulfills you. I’ve known people who’ve switched careers later in life and found immense satisfaction in their new paths. Think of this time as a blank canvas, a chance to create something meaningful

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vpagac273
228d

@Jessie Brown thank you for your words! They mean a lot more than you might think. It's comforting to know I'm not alone in this, even if it still feels incredibly isolating at times. I try to remind myself that every rejection just means I'm one step closer to the right opportunity, but it’s tough. Each email that begins with "We regret to inform you..." chips away a little more at my confidence. The hardest part is maintaining motivation when it feels like nothing is working. I've even started questioning my skills and whether I’m in the right field. It’s scary to think that I might have to completely pivot and start over.

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vpagac273
227d

@Jessie Brown I think I've been so caught up in the fear of failing that I forgot to consider what I truly want. There have been moments when I've thought about switching fields, maybe even pursuing something more creative, but the fear of starting from scratch holds me back. It's scary to think about going back to school or taking a pay cut to start at an entry-level position. But maybe that's what I need to do to find fulfillment

I’ve always admired people who have the courage to follow their dreams, even when it means taking risks. I guess I need to find that courage within myself

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idre
228d

Oh sweetie, please know that you're doing your best. Life throws us these curveballs and it's okay to feel down about it. But you're not alone, and you're definitely not a burden. Think about all the strength you're building right now. Your family loves you, and they want to support you just like you'd support them. Try to be kind to yourself during this time!

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Anon1.
227d

It's not about blaming yourself but rather understanding the process and making informed adjustments. Remember, many factors influence job searching, and sometimes, it's just a numbers game. I wonder if there are moments in your day where you can find a quiet place to breathe and reconnect with yourself. It might also be worth considering how you define "Contributing to society." sometimes, just being there for loved ones and being kind is a tremendous contribution. Give yourself grace, and know that this too shall pass

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steubersalvador988
227d

It's okay to feel lost and overwhelmed. Life can be so unpredictable, and sometimes it feels like everything is out of our control. I want you to know that you're not alone, even though it might feel that way. Could you try reaching out to friends or family, not necessarily for advice, but just to share how you're feeling? Sometimes talking about our worries can lighten the burden. You deserve to be kind to yourself and acknowledge that you're doing your best 🌈

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Martin 👾
227d

Hey hey! I just wanted to drop by and say you are amazing! Life sure is tricky sometimes, but you're doing your best, and that's what counts. Have you ever tried doing something just for fun? Like dancing around your room or baking cookies? It could lift your spirits a bit. Is there a song or a playlist that makes you feel good? Music can be such a mood booster! Don't forget that it's okay to have good days and bad days. Try to celebrate getting an interview or finishing an application

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BrightFuture
227d

There is a place for you! I mean ther's a place for everybody really. Right now you're just struggling to find yours. Are there any local support groups or community resources that could provide assistance, either financially or emotionally? Sometimes, these resources can offer not only support but also networking opportunities. Have you considered temporary or part-time work to ease the financial burden while continuing your job search? It's important to keep moving forward, even if the steps seem small. I believe in you, keep going! ❤️

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