I am raising a child, which I am very happy about. I'd like to have another one, but there are problems. Let me start from the beginning. I'm healthy, but my husband is infertile. We wanted children and I didn't want to cheat on him. So we went to expensive medical procedures.
I was "pumped" with hormones, and then they "planted" an embryo. And so three times, because the first and the second one didn't work. It's easy to write, but it's not easy to bear it when you already feel life inside and then it stops. It's shocking and stressful.
It's tears, and feeling bad from excess hormones. It's a bad figure from the medication.
It's debts and loans, procedures are expensive. Several years passed in the exercise. When I cried, I lkmaoa that if I had cheated on my husband, I wouldn't have to suffer so much
But I'm honest, and I suffered. After raising my head a bit from my problems, I began to suspect that my husband was cheating on me. This was especially disgusting in the face of my exploits.
I did a little investigation and my husband's adultery was quickly discovered. You have no idea how angry I was! I'd agonized in clinics about not cheating, and he didn't agonize. And he didn't appreciate it.
I didn't want to see my husband anymore. I took a mop in my hands, opened the door, and kicked him out of the apartment. I cried for a long time. For days I walked around like a robot, feeling nothing.
A friend told me that I should try to get pregnant naturally. I agreed out of anger. We started looking for a donor.
Yes, a donor. I just wanted a baby, not a new husband. We had a long discussion about what kind of father he should be. Smart, healthy, handsome. And he should have a family. That's a good indicator of character, too.
I spent a week looking for him on the Internet. I've been texting men. I'd given up hope. But suddenly I found him. I liked him, and we had an "affair". In the process of communication I found out that he is healthy, educated, and has two children. Everything's fine.
Since I was healthy, I got pregnant very quickly. The goal was achieved. And I "disappeared" from my lover's sight. I was no longer angry with my husband. I've committed adultery, too. After all, I was also looking for
Maybe the lover was looking for me, but I didn't care. I was getting ready to have a baby. At some point my husband came back and we made up. I told my husband I'd used a medical service.
Although I had no money for it and chose the "free option". Shortly before the birth, my lover found me. He was bored, and I think he was starting to guess that the baby might be his. He asked me the due date. I told him. And we agreed to just text each other.
The baby that was born looked so much like him that the photo couldn't be shown. I didn't want him to claim the baby. Soon enough, the baby developed allergies. And it was important for the diagnosis if the father had it.
I mysteriously mumbled in the correspondence "and how do you tolerate milk?" to which he replied that he did not. Of course, it was my fault for choosing a donor like that.
Since he was smart, after these questions, the lover started demanding a picture of the baby. I had to send it. I could have ended it, of course. But I wanted a second child. After the baby photo, he sent me a baby photo of himself. The resemblance is obvious.
I blocked him and left town. The baby's growing up, my husband and I are raising him. But how do you have a second child..
That's a twist! The man was used...well, you're good that you don't ask anything from him...well, and the second one can be from another donor?
From my point of view, you're doing great! You've been through so much, and the baby is like a reward for everything. Where do you think you can get a second one? Well, the same place... If you can do it once, you can do it again....
I admire you! I don't know if your lover is looking for you right now, but it might be worth it to keep communicating with him...apparently he cares about the child too...don't be afraid, with proper communication it won't ruin the marriage.
It would be so nice if the child knew both fathers!!! He would be loved by more people...! You're doing great! Don't worry, you can handle anything! Thanks for the story.
That's a cool story! Made me think that maybe I have kids somewhere and I don't know it. And I was horrified by it. Tell the baby's father about the baby....
I would like to give support, understanding. The hard part is over! You have a child! You'll have a second child by whomever you want!!! Don't lose heart!!!
Hi! I don't have kids and I've been thinking about a donor too. After reading your story, now I know where to get one) Thank you!!! you are smart and resourceful!!! I wish happiness to you and your baby.