I understand you my friend, if we're brought up in a certain abusive environment then love seems like an alien thought to us, but you can get over this issues, all you need to do is let go off it, sometimes we have to forgive those who didn't apologize and we have to thank ourselves and God for holding on, now that you're away from what happened in the past live life the way you wanted love yourself the way you wanted to be loved, and just forgive those who didn't know how to raise you, forgiveness is so powerful, it can make you feel at immense peace.
Also torturing yourself harming your body is no way to get out this my love, I know you have had difficult times but harming your body never was is not and never should be an option
You are the one who's supposed to love and care for yourself the most, how will it work if you yourself want to hurt your body
My very first concern are you taking sleeping pills on prescription or yourself ?? If by yourself then please stop, it'll get you addicted and eventually you'll not be able to do without it, so please do not consume any meds without doctor's prescription
Another point is about your urge to harm yourself, I know certain times people are from such abusive and toxic families that seeing other kids being treated differently makes them feel alienated, but I suppose you're already past that phase and it doesn't bother you any further mentally, if so then just forgive the family, mistakes happen and not everyone can run a balanced life, so if something went wrong back then, then get away from it and forgive it as it's said all's well that ends well
Just make a lil promise to yourself that just because others traumatized you, doesn't mean you should also traumatize yourself
I understand you very much...I too try to hurt myself to make myself do something...so my understanding and support! but your self-esteem is lower than mine...I worry about you...I want to live.....
Hello!
Self-harm is a form of self-destructive behavior that is quite difficult to cope with on your own. Moreover, it requires an integrated approach. Therefore, please find an opportunity to contact a qualified psychologist or psychotherapist, with whom you can systematically approach this issue and solve the problem.
I will also give a few recommendations that will help you relieve your condition.
1) Identify triggers
Analyze in what situations this behavior or craving for it appears. Self-harm is often preceded by fairly similar situations and triggers - it is important to see what turns on this mechanism, what is common in these situations. Eliminate these triggers if possible.
2) Ask for support
You should always have on hand the contact of a friend or relative who will always listen and support, or an audio recording or an encouraging note from him in case you cannot talk. A chat in which you can always speak out (family, friends or psychological group chat) can also be a great support.
3) Get distracted by something
You can use distraction tactics to help yourself resist the urge to cut yourself.
Here are a few methods:
count up to 1000;
watch a movie or favorite series;
drink a cup of tea or coffee;
do housework, for example, do a little cleaning;
take a walk down the street or in the park.
4) Take care of yourself
Cuts may be a reaction to deep emotional pain and sadness. The way to manage these emotions without getting cut is by taking care of yourself. Self-care is any activity that helps you feel calm or comforted.
Try the following methods:
take a bath or shower;
listen to relaxing music;
curl up under a soft blanket;
do self-massage;
read in bed.
5) Relieve stress
There is often a desire to relieve tension or stress behind self-harm. To manage your body’s response to stress without cutting yourself, follow these steps:
do yoga at home;
do deep breathing exercises;
do mindfulness meditation, for example, you can slowly walk and notice everything you see, smell, hear and touch.
6) Find an alternative
A replacement behavior is a behavior that will help you resolve the same task without hurting yourself. To do this, you can wear a tight elastic band on your arm to click it on the skin in those moments when you want, for example, to cut yourself. You can also dip your fingers in a bowl of ice for a while, take a cold shower, draw on your skin with a red felt-tip pen, clap your hands as hard as you can, or stomp your feet loudly.
Apply these simple recommendations and the desire to resort to self-harm will gradually decrease and at some point disappear completely.